Campus guys for rich divas
07 November 2012, 11:56
University graduates carry with them a lot of negative publicity, most of which comprise stereotypical prejudice from those who believe the rumours.
For a long time, campus girls have been on spot over indecent dressing and sexual immorality. The cases of sexually transmitted degrees, STIs and abortions in the local universities have raised brows over the recent years.
However, people have forgotten that these questionable behaviours are facilitated by two parties, often a man and a woman. The question is; what is the ethical standing of campus dudes as far as sexuality is concerned?
Gone are the days when campus girls played housewives, and campus guys took it upon themselves to attend lectures on behalf of their campus wives. It was not uncommon to find a girl doing the dishes, washing clothes of a male classmate who had promised to take notes, write assignments and even sit exams on her behalf in exchange for her services in the house and in bed.
Those from major towns would go looking for rich men to take care of their upkeep and keep them busy over the weekend.
Today, campus guys are taking campus relationships to a new level, and in fact, most of them now prefer the rich working women to their unemployed classmates.
History is now repeating itself and more of what many would refer to as “Wambui na Mbugua” tales are now gaining ground in the universities.
Young men prefer old women who can pay for their apartments off campus, take them out, provide them with money to entertain young campus girls while in school and organize for their job placements after graduation.
Some are even going to the extent of declaring that they are officially not interested in young women “because they are not mature”.
In order to win the trust of the mature working class and eventually earn a fortune from the rich divas, they come up with a lot of empty excuses.
Muthoni, who fell in the trap of such a guy, confirms that “he used to say that he loves me because I am independent-minded.”
She had dated a fourth year student for two years when she realized that he had a fleet of other younger girls back in the university.
“I was working with a marketing company when I met this guy. I rented a house near the University so we could live together, hoping that he would commit. Though he washed my clothes and did all other house chores, I still felt that he was not real,” she explains.
Muthoni decided to put her campus boyfriend on test in order to establish his real motive.
“I have been trained to test before I trust, but when I put him through my secret exam he failed terribly,” she notes.
Marion was also prey to material campus dudes who are after rich divas. She had dated her campus boyfriend for four months before he started pestering her to accommodate him.
“I did not like it that a man was so comfortable in my house that he did not even think of his own future. Marriage was not even in his to-do list,” she says.
What made Marion to let go of her campus boyfriend is not his lack of vision, but the fact that he did not want to bear children with her.
“One day I told him that I was pregnant with his child, but he reacted so strangely. He looked shocked and then after a long pause, he started making calls. The next thing he said to me is that he has organized for the abortion because he was not ready, and so I gave him a break,” she recalls.
So many people are falling into hypocritical relationships without their knowledge. Getting out of such relationships can be hard, and painful with dire consequences.
But how can you tell that he or she is for real?
• They do not mind being seen with you by their peers.
• They are open about their friends and relationships with friends and family members.
• They believe in co-dependence.
• They are actively involved in your life without interfering with your privacy.
• They have you in their future plans and will make every effort to make the relationship work.
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