Bad sex with a good person or good sex with a bad person?
29 September 2015, 14:40
Nairobi - Bad sex with a good person or good sex with a good person?
Just think about it carefully for a minute before giving an answer because I would bet for most of us, good sex any day. Even I would have jumped at that because most people cannot even stand the idea of bad sex from their own spouse or partner. That is why people have those other people on the side.
Then again, what is your idea of a bad person? We are not talking about cliché terms of ‘bad’ boy or a ‘bad’ girl but a person who is actually bad for you and you know it. They do not respect you, they do not care about you, they do not tolerate your bad side ever, cannot compromise themselves ever for you; they are abusive and just straight not good for you! Good sex with a bad person can only be encouraged if you know it is a onetime thing-a one night stand! It is a no strings attached situation where at the end of it you do not or will not expect anything from the other person.
The trap is we go in expecting nothing, then that one time leads to phone numbers with follow up phone calls and routine scheduled appointments to see them again. That is how people end up in relationships with poor people. People who are bad for them; sex is a powerful tool and it gets so many hooked in. You are thinking, ‘I could never end up like that, with such a person! Try it sometime if you are that brave. Also only if you are not yet married.
If you are with a good person, or find someone who is good to you then pick them because bad sex can always be changed, upgraded and improved. They are not good where it counts for you but because they like you or love you they will make the effort to make it good for you. That s what counts when you are with a good person. They will always consider your needs and not walk all over you.
If it is commitment you are considering and a legitimate relationship, then just choose the second option because the first will ruin your life, trust me! You will start compensating to be with that person because you end up losing yourself in them and pleasing them. That is not compromise but compensating and they will never appreciate it because that is what bad people do. That is what bad people do when you get into a relationship with them.
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