Are you relationship needy?
29 September 2014, 17:07
Nairobi - So you are in a
relationship, but you are still not sure what is crossing the line or staying
within the set boundaries. There are times you are not even sure where you
stand with someone but you just want to take each day a step at a time and
avoid being labelled needy. But are you really needy?
Waiting by the phone
There is getting
back, then there is psychotic neediness. When someone tells you they will call
or text back, what do you do? Sit by the phone while you check it every five
seconds or you do other things and wait for the call back. There are some
people out there who are too dramatic. If you know you do not have a life of
your own and in turn you interrupt someone else’s with your neediness, then you
are the one who needs work. Some people are just too busy doing something with
themselves, so when they tell you they will get back and they are late doing so,
there is no need to send threatening, angry messages; only if, they never do
that is when you have a right to tell them not to waste your time and move
You had other plans, so this person calls you and tells you,
you should meet up. You cancel because it was not all that important and wait
on them but they never show. You are definitely not needy when you ask for an
explanation. If someone feels that you should change your plans for them but
they waste your day or night by changing theirs and not telling you about it,
the lose screw is theirs. People should learn to respect your time.
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In forming new
relationships, you are at the cozy stage where no one wants to get in each
other’s face. If someone makes it clear they are not ready for anything, you
are the one who makes the choice to keep trying or move on. When you keep
trying on someone who has made themselves clear, then you are the needy one for
trying to force emotional connection with them.
Being taken advantage of and taken for granted. It’s not
being irrational when you ask someone to step up to the plate when they are the
ones who set it out. Never under estimate people’s ability to make you feel the
one at fault for the mistakes they do. If someone asks to be in relationship
with you, and only want to be in it when it suits them when they are not worth
it. It is one thing to be taken for granted and presumed to have irrational
demands and just respecting yourself.
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