Are you really ready to move in with him?
10 October 2014, 13:29
Nairobi - The thing about relationships is that sometimes we try so
hard to fast-track them, most of the time because we want it to work out the way
we want but not the way it should.
Are you ready to move in together or are you
not. It is so easy to say yes but it is so much harder to work things out when
you are already there.
Worst case scenario, it completely ruins the relationship but
best case scenario, you get to know the person you once believed you knew
intimately. We are all afraid of things not to work out most of the time that
we spend most of it looking at the cons but never the pros of the bad that we
That is why most couples are in relationships that are abusive,
draining, exhausting and just stupid in some cases.
A lot of the articles you
read are usually headlined, move in together! Think again and they put you in
such a state that you change your mind and overlook why you really should. I am
not saying you date the guy for a few months and set camp at his house on the
Read also: Testers to finding the right man
I am talking long
term here, if you feel that you are ready to settle down with someone at times
you do need to move in together and test the waters because the lukewarm
temperature might actually be really hot but you never got in deep enough to
The pros of moving in together is that you really get to know someone,
not the positive but the negative too. A relationship is about balance and not
perfection. Because believe you me, when you see the negatives that is when you
really know someone, not what they dress up in when they come to see you for a
date for an hour or two.
So try it, and after you are done, take a step back
and ask yourself if you can handle it because at the end of the day we are all
just frogs trying to make the best of what we have. And if they are perfect,
something is just off, get into the deep end and pick up the rocks at the
bottom of the pool; then come up, look everyone in the
eye and say you are the best swimmer, because we are all trying to be that.
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