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Are you really ready to move in with him?

10 October 2014, 13:29 Shakial Alivitsa

Nairobi - The thing about relationships is that sometimes we try so hard to fast-track them, most of the time because we want it to work out the way we want but not the way it should.

Are you ready to move in together or are you not. It is so easy to say yes but it is so much harder to work things out when you are already there.

Worst case scenario, it completely ruins the relationship but best case scenario, you get to know the person you once believed you knew intimately. We are all afraid of things not to work out most of the time that we spend most of it looking at the cons but never the pros of the bad that we found out.

That is why most couples are in relationships that are abusive, draining, exhausting and just stupid in some cases.

A lot of the articles you read are usually headlined, move in together! Think again and they put you in such a state that you change your mind and overlook why you really should. I am not saying you date the guy for a few months and set camp at his house on the third month.

Read also: Testers to finding the right man

I am talking long term here, if you feel that you are ready to settle down with someone at times you do need to move in together and test the waters because the lukewarm temperature might actually be really hot but you never got in deep enough to feel it.

The pros of moving in together is that you really get to know someone, not the positive but the negative too. A relationship is about balance and not perfection. Because believe you me, when you see the negatives that is when you really know someone, not what they dress up in when they come to see you for a date for an hour or two.

So try it, and after you are done, take a step back and ask yourself if you can handle it because at the end of the day we are all just frogs trying to make the best of what we have. And if they are perfect, something is just off, get into the deep end and pick up the rocks at the bottom of the pool; then come up, look everyone in the eye and say you are the best swimmer, because we are all trying to be that.

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