An easy solution to my problems
01 July 2015, 18:07
Nairobi - It may not be a good approach to look for problems where there are none but it’s all about being a tactician in how you run your life. A company does not wait to be taken over. It strategizes months or years ahead on trends in the market then it makes the right moves to ensure it stays relevant.
Sometimes when things are okay as they are we never venture further to find out how we can make a good situation better. That is a flaw that most of us share. We can get too comfortable in the here and now and hope that it never gets messy.
In our jobs, our careers, with our partners and our relationships. We do try with business though, most of us but not all of us. If it is making money we will work harder to make it get us more money.
But when it comes to relationships, we all go by the phrase; ‘if it is not broken, do not fix it!’ If we are not arguing right now we hope and work hard to ensure that it stays that way. We do not go figuring out problems that could ruin that situation. We would like them to either stay buried or never come up.
If we are both okay with staying in at the moment then we do not make an effort until someone starts feeling neglected. If we are courteous with everyone else’s relations then we do hope it stays that way and no one comes up with an issue afterword. If a partner has always dealt with their issues by themselves and has it has kept us content until now then why should I go around looking for it?
As humans, we have that flaw of never being proactive in order to make what we have now better. We are satisfies with the way it is until the moment an issue comes up then we start scrambling for solutions.
Why should you wait to be dissatisfied with something so that you figure out a solution for it? Why can’t you take the steps to think ahead and wonder, what will make this good situation better so that I do not have to have a problem that needs fixing.
If your job is working out great at the moment look for the little things that make you dissatisfied and fix them now before they blow up in your face. It may be poor relationships with colleagues or an average boss, do not wait for them to create an uncomfortable situation for you. Go to great lengths to ensure a better relationship. If it is not working, then that is when you look for other positions. Do not wait to be fired or lose out on a promotion and get poor appraisals.
If it is a career, take the initiative to figure out if it is what you really want or it is something you will look back, ten years down the line and have regrets. If it is the latter, you do not have to quit but you can do what you want on the side just to give you that sense of satisfaction. Truth is, passion at times never pays off. Your passion may never be able to afford your family or children. So you keep what you are doing it now and take some of your personal time for your passion. That is how you never have regrets. You get proactive with your current situation rather than wait for it to mess you up.
Same applies to your marriage or relationship. Yes it is good now, but like everything else, there is always that one thing that you are ignoring, overlooking or not paying enough attention to because you just can. Be proactive now by trying to fix it as a small problem rather than wait for it to be a bigger problem. It may be a possessive, controlling spouse or a jealous partner. An obsessive, miserly partner or competitive partner who is not supportive now. Let them know that it gets to you now so that they do not later ask you, ‘so why are you speaking out now?’ Makes them feel like there is an underhand agenda to the whole issue that what you are trying to work out now, five years down the line.
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