Aaah.... The one that got away
12 May 2015, 18:27
Nairobi - Man or woman, we all have that one that got away. The person that you knew was the one but because of foolishness, bad behavior, lack of wisdom, maturity and bad treatment they left you. At times it is you that made the bad decision and left them. They might have begged but at the time, you were in cloud nine, thought you were God’s gift to humankind. Thought that you will find a much better model because you had netted that one. A few years down the line, you are shaking your head at how dumb you were at that time.
Maybe not even years, maybe months but they moved on. At times not with another person they just moved on at will. They realized that if you could treat them badly at that time they are better off looking for someone else rather than settling for you.
The worst is, after you realize that they left, they become a scale of measure. A benchmark of sorts that everybody else after them has to surpass or at least be close to otherwise you will never be satisfied with them. Nothing worse than that for that person you are seeing at the moment. Because they do not even know what you are thinking because you never tell them.
If they cook for you, you are just thinking at the back of your mind how the food does not taste as good. Next time you go into the kitchen, to pretend, you are giving them company. What you are doing instead is restraining from telling them what they should do and why.
When they are giving commentaries to a favorite show of yours, you are busy wondering why there opinion sounds dumb and not as clever as the other ones. You end up switching them off.
Or if he takes you out, you are busy inspecting their manners and why they are not as perfect. They catch you staring with a disappointed look in your face but you cannot explain what is happening.
The worst is when you do it with their physical attributes. Taking them apart and you do it over and over again. It reaches a point you actually give up and just settle. A lot of people settle, not because there were no options but they looked so hard and gave up. At the back of their mind, they already know they found the one who was well suited for them and they missed the bus on that one because they messed it up one way or the other.
Do not fall for such people they are the worst to end up with because you will spend a lifetime proving a point you do not even know about and you will wonder why even when you exceed everyone’s expectations, theirs are never met.
They will make you miserable because they will not treat you as you should be. They will be devaluing you without your knowledge. Problem is, that a lot for you never know when to look for the signs. If someone is shortchanging you, does not matter is they will be richer, wiser or more grown, they will devalue you even then. It is much better to move on rather than holding on. Their bus left, they know it, you are the one that does not know it.
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