A few tricks to finding the good guy
26 June 2015, 12:55
Nairobi - Why haven’t you found
Every other day I am usually energized by the irony of the ‘bad
woman’ getting the so-called ‘good guy’. It grates your nerves but it is true,
isn’t it? Bad woman? I am not talking about the smoker, party till the weekday
is young and sleep with the whole county person. I am talking about the woman
who does not really care. She does not care if she grows to forty and still has
no man, irony is she always has a man. The one who cares less about the
perception of what is a good wife, irony is she always gets the men that are
the ‘good husband’. The one who does not care to wash his clothes, clean his
house, cook for him while you the good girl bends over backwards to get it done.
At the end of the day, you will mop his house while she raises her feet so that
you could get it done.
Please, raise your hand, if you were at his house with his friend that had ‘just stopped’ by and
you were doing chores! You can pretend and say, ‘you have never’ but we all
know at some point some of you have gotten the short end of that ‘shtick’. Yes, the shtick (that is the
right spelling) and you know which one I am talking about. The one that does
not really care if you were satisfied but got off and left but you still went
back in begging for more. That is what massacre
penis gets you! Its short end.
If you are here
because you think I am about to impart some wisdom then I am about to fail you
because I still never get it. But, I have played that good girl role for quite
abit and I am telling you, you can only pull that trigger if he is a settle
type of man as well. If he is the kawaida African, Kenyan man that we all come
across who has options, then no matter how many dusters you use, he will still
not wife your brow beaten, palm hardened, cheapened hands. And that is the
I like men, I won’t lie, so I was not going to go about
crusading a massacre against men. I would be lying to you as my reader. I just
knew I was going to change tactics. But do not get confused, I was not giving
wife duties to any men that were not up my standards. If you are one of those
women then you need to stop. Let me put it this way, at times, most times, men
become lactose intolerant if the milk is gotten for free. Can you imagine
waking up every morning and knowing that the cow is out there and all you have
to do is milk it? You can stop working, not hustle but you are sure you will
have milk to drink as well as sell if times got too harsh. So why struggle?
Good guys also want the best. Do not confuse a brow beaten
man with one who is willing to treat you nicely. There is a difference. The
good guy will not want someone who is desperate, or willing to do anything for
him. He also wants the good stuff, because he is also working hard to get and
be the good in life. He does not want something that every other Tom can deep
his equipment in. Let me put it this way. I normally concentrate my energies on
one person all in the name of not being slutty and not being whorish. Problem
in that is, women we are too used to contact and communication. That is why men
have a problem with us sending them all those texts and calls in one day,
because we are busy focusing all of it on one man. What that is communicating
to him is that he has no competition, no competition means, not worth fighting
for. If he is the only one in that race then the victory is not that sweet.
That is what many women have never understood. No matter how
up and down you walk prophesying that you have many men after you but the whole
day you are talking and texting him alone, he already knows there is no one
else. So he does not have to put all his energies in you because he can go,
come back, go back again and resurface after two weeks, you will still be there
waiting. A man needs to know that you are a prize in order for him to treat you
as such. If it is the opposite, then why should he bother? No effort on his
part and he is still going to get the milk then I now understand why the bad
girl gets the good stuff. In his mind he still has something to conquer every
step of that relationship. The day she even washes his plate, he will feel like
he has just stormed Rome and got all of them to surrender. The day she even
washes a sock is the day he will feel like he has won some contract. That is
how those women you think are not worth it to you keep winning. They have never
shown that they have something to lose.
Some of you are so desperate to prove your worth that you
lose sight of it along the way. Preaching how he shall see! Newsflash! He shall
not see anything. You will cook, clean and wash and you will leave and she will
come eat off those plates and leave again so that you can come wash them for
her… and him again. But you will be the one left wondering what you have to do.
If you have kept it going for more than a year then you are a much stronger
woman than I.
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