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6 ways to know he only wants sex

24 June 2015, 14:14 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi -  Let it not be said that I said adults can have sex when they want and that qualifies as a relationship. Let it also not be said that I said if it is the first date and the both of you feel there is some ‘chemistry’ and you are adults it is alright to have sex.

I said the second one but the first is what many women get lost in translation after performing on the latter. You can be his booty call for months on end but delude yourself that it is more than that because you are assuming that his logic functions as yours does even though his actions are contrary.  Most of you already know you are booty calls because you already googled it but still hope he sees how good you are for him. Regardless of whether he sees you once or twice a month!

You are a booty call if;

No weekend dates

Let me tell you a secret, the men who know how to best handle booty calls plan them on weekdays and never on his weekends. Let me further explain why. A weekend is his precious time to do what he wants to do. It is also the only time he has to convince the girl if he has any that he is worthy to be her boyfriend-he goes all out on her. Never on you! He already has a shelf life for you and it is not on his weekend timeline because weekends are precious for people who have hectic weekdays.

On a weekday he does not have to worry about him leaving you in his house because you also have to go to work. He does not have to worry about giving you the special treatment, you are on a deadline. Grab something to eat at some fast food place, debunk to his place and leave together or separate in the morning. Case closed. See how easy that was as compared to if he ever sets it up on a weekend? Weekends are three days and no man who does not want you to be his girlfriend will open himself up to that. If he does, let me ask you, did he ever come up with some work trip or homework that he had to finish up before Monday?

The girlfriend material never meets his friends for a long while

I do not know why women are delusional but I think it is all these advice they get from the internet. Let me give you a simple logical train of reasoning. Men are territorial. Men do not like sharing. If a man has pinpointed a girl to be his, it will take a long while before she meets the boys unless they run in the same circles. And even then, he will take her to a lot of personal dates, just the two of them before he ever sits her down with the other fellows.

In fact, I will tell you beware if he takes you out with him the first day and introduces you as a friend, because even then you cannot complain because you are not anything yet! So he can call you friend!

Just because you went out with him and met his friends, does not mean he respects you as his girl. Most of the time his friends already know he is not serious with you and you are there to ease the lust after the night out. Just think on this for a minute and wonder if I am wrong.

All your interactions end up horizontally

We would have said in the dark but contrary to that, the act can also happen in the day light and not necessarily horizontally. As long as you always have sex every time, you are a booty call. Which brings me to the following point.

Booty calls happen once in a while not him calling you every other day

In the previous point, I said, every time. That does not mean two to three times a week. Contrary to your belief, men are not beastly with urges they cannot control. In fact, I have learnt that they are quite good at it actually. If a man does not want to see you and you are not on his agenda; beg, crawl and try seduce with how wild you are going to make him, if he does not want to he will not want to!

He is the one that will decide when to call you and when he feels like having sex with you. That can be once a week or even twice a month when he is just like, ‘I need to call Sheena, I have not had sex in a while!’ He calls, you get excited, he will even buy dinner in the name of catching up but it is just sex.

He can never find the time to do things with you that entail you being in public unless it is at his local

Because when he calls it is usually on private circumstances and that is because you will end up just having sex and nothing else. No lunch dates, no movies, no time just spent with you unless they are a prelude for you to extend it to the bedroom, the counter, some dark alley or even in the car (normally happens when a female colleague is trying to persuade her workmate she is adventurous as a girlfriend).

Also if you are the one who called and he agreed to meet you, but it ended up with sex; it is not you who made the date happen but it is he who made the choice that he was long overdue on a fix.

Booty calls do not include cuddling

You might have spent the night, thing is if a man dresses up in night wear in the name of cold and sleeps on the other side of the bed, he is distancing himself from you. You just went from sex tonight to anonymous lady from the coffee shop who I will delete the minute I get bored!

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