6 ways to know he only wants sex
24 June 2015, 14:14
Nairobi - Let it not be said that I said adults can have sex when they
want and that qualifies as a relationship. Let it also not be said that I said
if it is the first date and the both of you feel there is some ‘chemistry’ and
you are adults it is alright to have sex.
I said the second one but the first is what many women get
lost in translation after performing on the latter. You can be his booty call
for months on end but delude yourself that it is more than that because you are
assuming that his logic functions as yours does even though his actions are
contrary. Most of you already know you
are booty calls because you already googled it but still hope he sees how good you are for him.
Regardless of whether he sees you once or twice a month!
You are a booty call if;
No weekend dates
Let me tell you a secret, the men who know how to best
handle booty calls plan them on weekdays and never on his weekends. Let me
further explain why. A weekend is his precious time to do what he wants to do.
It is also the only time he has to convince the girl if he has any that he is
worthy to be her boyfriend-he goes all out on her. Never on you! He already has
a shelf life for you and it is not on his weekend timeline because weekends are
precious for people who have hectic weekdays.
On a weekday he does not have to worry about him leaving you
in his house because you also have to go to work. He does not have to worry
about giving you the special treatment, you are on a deadline. Grab something
to eat at some fast food place, debunk to his place and leave together or
separate in the morning. Case closed. See how easy that was as compared to if
he ever sets it up on a weekend? Weekends are three days and no man who does
not want you to be his girlfriend will open himself up to that. If he does, let
me ask you, did he ever come up with some work trip or homework that he had to finish up before Monday?
material never meets his friends for a long while
I do not know why women are delusional but I think it is all
these advice they get from the internet. Let me give you a simple logical train
of reasoning. Men are territorial. Men do not like sharing. If a man has
pinpointed a girl to be his, it will take a long while before she meets the
boys unless they run in the same circles. And even then, he will take her to a
lot of personal dates, just the two of them before he ever sits her down with
the other fellows.
In fact, I will tell you beware if he takes you out with him
the first day and introduces you as a friend, because even then you cannot
complain because you are not anything yet! So he can call you friend!
Just because you went out with him and met his friends, does
not mean he respects you as his girl. Most of the time his friends already know
he is not serious with you and you are there to ease the lust after the night
out. Just think on this for a minute and wonder if I am wrong.
All your interactions
end up horizontally
We would have said in the dark but contrary to that, the act
can also happen in the day light and not necessarily horizontally. As long as
you always have sex every time, you
are a booty call. Which brings me to the following point.
Booty calls happen
once in a while not him calling you every other day
In the previous point, I said, every time. That does not mean two to three
times a week. Contrary to your belief, men are not beastly with urges they
cannot control. In fact, I have learnt that they are quite good at it actually.
If a man does not want to see you and you are not on his agenda; beg, crawl and
try seduce with how wild you are going to make him, if he does not want to he
will not want to!
He is the one that will decide when to call you and when he
feels like having sex with you. That can be once a week or even twice a month
when he is just like, ‘I need to call Sheena, I have not had sex in a while!’
He calls, you get excited, he will even buy dinner in the name of catching up but it is just sex.
He can never find the
time to do things with you that entail you being in public unless it is at his
Because when he calls it is usually on private circumstances
and that is because you will end up just
having sex and nothing else. No lunch dates, no movies, no time just spent
with you unless they are a prelude for you to extend it to the bedroom, the
counter, some dark alley or even in the car (normally happens when a female
colleague is trying to persuade her workmate she is adventurous as a
Also if you are the one who called and he agreed to meet
you, but it ended up with sex; it is not you who made the date happen but it is he who made the choice that he was long
overdue on a fix.
Booty calls do not
You might have spent the night, thing is if a man dresses up
in night wear in the name of cold and sleeps on the other side of the bed, he
is distancing himself from you. You just went from sex tonight to anonymous
lady from the coffee shop who I will delete the minute I get bored!
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