6 things to discuss when going for a first date
21 April 2016, 20:30
Nairobi - It is okay to want your hand held while dating as well.
There is a reason why your last date never called you, blocked your number or
keeps sending you to voice mail. Maybe you have no filter or maybe, just maybe
you went above and beyond on your topics of conversation. Someone is laughing
because they think they have got ‘this’. No, you do not have this and maybe
that is why you are single.
Don’t talk about your
child/ children on your first date
It is not lying but giving someone the opportunity to get to
know you before you drop that bombshell. We all know some people choose to hide
this fact and that is because not many people are okay with seeing someone with
children or even one child. So let someone get to know you and maybe on the
second or third date is when you let them know. Otherwise, the minute you spill
that one it will take center stage the whole date. It will no longer be about
Your religious and
political views are a no-no
Just find something else to talk about. If it looks like it
is heading that direction, bring it back. Don’t talk about Ruto, don’t talk
about Sang, and don’t talk about the Ocampo six and your frustration with
corruption, the NYS scandal and the Eurobond. Save that debate for a later
date, like when you want to look for reasons the two of you are not a match.
You can talk about
If you have a boring job and do not enjoy what you do, I can
see how you would bore someone to death while talking about it. If your job is
tedious, then talk about something you enjoy doing on your spare time like
volunteering. Question them about theirs and be interested in actually wanting
to know. Don’t ask but your face is concentrating on the next table and what
they are doing. Don’t put down a profession and say why you would have never
done it-you might find out it is what they do.
What music do you
enjoy listening to?
‘What music do you enjoy listening to?’ ‘Hmmmm, I don’t
know. I listen to everything.’ That is me but I bet you, if I am sitting across
someone cultured I will talk about the classics, Ludwig van Beethoven, Frederic
Chopin and how they make me emotional and inspire creativity. Don’t say you
like ‘Bendover’ and raga. I was watching Tujuane and that was one woman’s answer.
The man while being interviewed on the side just said how he would never date
her but he is keeping her around until she introduces him to her friends so
that he can date them. Just don’t say ‘Bendover’ and Sean Paul on a date.
What do you like
doing on your free time?
You do not have to lie if on weekends you are mostly in bed
with a book or sleeping. Not everyone likes mucking around in mud when it is
raining. Just be honest. They will ask you to invite them out to something and
you will be clueless. If they want they can invite you but don’t draw a false
picture so that someone does not think you are boring. If they think you are
boring for not wanting to get rained on and saving money, then they are still
too much of a child. They are not the one for you.
Don’t take things too
There is this time I went to someone’s office and he had
these fancy chairs. You know if you have a big behind, you just deposit
yourself on anything because you are sure it will manage the stability. I have
this bad habit of sitting first and using my behind to move forward. The ladies
know what I am talking about. So this time, the fancy chairs were nearly my
undoing. I nearly fell off because the sit moved backwards. Luckily, the man
was not paying attention to what I was doing so while I was fighting with his
desk and chair I managed to pick myself really fast before he noticed. Or maybe
he noticed because you know how men like pretending.
The point is, you can have such moments while out on a date,
you can fall, spill something or maybe your date spills something on you. You
do not have to over react. Just be relaxed and have a good time. It is just a
dress and if you fall, you better laugh because you look less stupid.
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