6 signs your woman is jealous
19 February 2015, 18:43
Nairobi - Possessive, jealous, selfish might be cute and adorable in
the beginning of a relationship but soon enough the novelty of it wears off as
you get back to being like a normal couple soon after the honeymoon phase. What
might have been attractive becomes unattractive and makes the other person wish
you will change. Then you start wondering why they are trying to change you
when they did not seem to mind before.
That is because as much as a man wants to feel like he is
still wanted by his girlfriend, it does not mean he wants her to be his 24/7
watchdog. Like chocolate or alcohol or pizza, if you had it the whole day,
every day; you will get sickly and soon enough it turns you off and makes you
nauseous- that should get the point across. No one wants to make the person
they like/love feel nauseous in their presence and that is what turns some relationships
sour. When the girlfriend is clingy; how do you know if you are clingy?
You resent that his life does not revolve around you
If you want to go shopping, you want his company. If you
want to go eat, you want his company. If you want to go out, you want his
company. If he wants to watch a game, you want him to talk to you. If you call
him and he is watching a movie, you do not like the fact that he chooses to put
you on pause rather than the movie.
Be a girlfriend that can keep herself busy if he is not
around. Maintain your circles so that if he wants to watch a game and you want
to go to a movie, you can do that just with different company.
You do not want to give him space
If you are not a morning person you will understand this
one. Sometimes I wake up, I am awake but my head is just not right yet, so I
zone out. If you try to talk to me I will just stare at you blankly. You will
get angry because I am intentionally ignoring you and blocking you out. That is
the same as relationships and people needing their space at times. At times
people just need time to be in their own heads.
At times we just like a break from a person, not because we
like them less but we do not want their rejuvenating properties to run out.
You think everyone is bad influence for him
Because they want to maintain the weekly ritual of the local
pub. Or they want to go for a road trip where the girlfriends are not included.
So you are the one that thinks maybe so and so is actually not good influence
as they are not instilling homestead and home staying virtues but are
encouraging him to continue behaving like a bachelor.
You want to constantly work on the relationship
Some people do not
like it when things do not go there way, thus they are constantly trying to fix
what is not yet broken. In the case of the clingy girlfriend, she feels that
they do not spend enough time together. She becomes suspicious.
If he spends one weekend away at his house rather than hers,
then something is up.She tries to find ways for them to make their schedules
synchronize so that if they are not at work then they are together.
You do not like his pretty friends
It can be just a
friend, a colleague, a long-time family friend… but it makes you uncomfortable
when he tells you that they are going to spend time together. Sometimes it can
be suspect, yes, especially when it is a ritual but at times it can be just
that a get together to catch up. Do not look for something where there is none.
Constant texts and phone calls
I have a friend who
is in a new relationship, she complains when the guy does not send a good
morning text and follow it up the whole day. Then there is the friend who has
been in a long committed relationship, the man texts all the time and calls
when he knows it is her lunch hour. She says he is annoying and does not know
how to tell him to reduce without hurting someone’s feelings. These are two
contrasts, the thing is about finding balance.
Wanting constant attention does not make you a loving
girlfriend but a spoilt brat, people have things to do during the day. If he
sends a good morning good but do not expect that he now wants to sit by the
phone chatting the whole day. If he forgets then you can cool off and call to
say goodnight not complain on why he did not. Unless you want to encourage
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