6 signs of a bad relationship
05 August 2015, 16:38
There are some glaring things that women usually ignore that cost them their relationships. Here are a few.
Possessive and clingy vs. Looking out for you
One is being insecure while the other is caring. Do not
confuse the two. One wants to dictate where you are, who you should be with and
when or how. The other wants to know where you are to see if you are safe and
with people who can take care of you in case you get too drunk to get yourself
home. If you cannot tell the difference then you are in a mess already.
Ogling every woman vs. Appreciating a good looking woman
Even I have to admit that at times when I see a good looking
woman who is well dressed and her make-up is well applied, I will stare and
appreciate her good efforts. If she is my colleague I will stare Monday to
Saturday if I get the opportunity. I would not mind if I see my man doing what
I am also doing. On the other hand, if your man is the type that stares at
every woman in his vicinity especially if he is on a date with you; that is a
red flag. He does not respect you enough to pay attention to you but spends the
whole time looking at everything that passes. He is a wanderer.
Wife beater vs. ….
Any form of violence is never ignored but I just have to
share this story to explain why I put this one up. A friend of mine was seeing
this guy and they were far gone in the relationship. At some point it became
rocky and the guy comes back home drunk one night; an argument ensues and he
hits her. A fist on the cheek. So she asks him, ‘You are now a wife beater?’ He
answered, ‘But you are not a wife!’ I will just leave this at that hoping that
you get the point.
Your own gut feeling and instincts
We all ignore our own guts most of the time because we are
thinking that it is our fear preventing us from making the right decision. Most
of the time, it is your subconscious pointing out that something is not really
good for you when your conscious is about to make the wrong decision. Most of
the time it is better to pay attention to your gut and save yourself the drama
and the pain that comes later.
Lavish spendthrift vs. Living well
There is a difference between draining your bank account to
live a life you can clearly not afford; as compared to being prudent when it
comes to living a good lifestyle. Know which corner your man is in because that
is what you are going to deal with when you choose to commit to him.
Alcoholic vs. Casual
An alcoholic is not a person who has to have a stiff drink
after getting at home from a hectic work day. One and he is done, that is okay.
Alcoholic is the one that takes a whole bottle, every day of the week, finishes
it and has to take a shot in the morning to have a good work day. On the
weekend? He is in a stupor and rouses himself up Sunday evening. So Sunday
evening is the only time he might be sober. That is an alcoholic.
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