6 reasons why men are scared of commitment
23 October 2014, 17:21
Nairobi - There is a reason men run as fast as possible to the
opposite direction when they hear about commitment not just in marriage but
just in a relationship. It is mostly having to deal with that woman and all her
issues, that scares men. And some women do have issues; some may be well
founded but others are just woven in thin air or out of their mental psyche and
most of the time, the man tries to understand how she came up with it and he
ends up being dumbfounded.
Thinking he is cheating
He said he will be
home by four but he gets there at five, why is he an hour late. He is cheating.
Rarely does it ever cross women’s minds that there can be another cause other
than cheating, it is the go-to explanation. Even if he tries to explain. Men
are very basic, practical and logical; that straightforward answer may just be
that and nothing else.
Going through his phone and texts
Facebook and what he liked or shared especially from another girl. If he is on
Instagram, he should not like other women’s photos. These all just make you
insecure. A man does not want commitment to someone he has to explain himself
to on petty issues. Let him explain why KES 30,000 is missing in the joint
account, but why he is liking some photo of some woman you have never met, may
end up making you look stupid. It might really just be his cousin.
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Commitment spells not
having space. Let us be realistic, most women claim that they do not want to
follow their men around but their actions just prove otherwise. There is a reason
absence makes the heart grow fonder, and you wanting to spend all the time
together just makes it irritating to say the least. Sleeping together, waking
up together, spending the day together, doing everything together just makes
the relationship stifling when it should be enjoyable.
You know the way you
can walk away from an argument to someone you do not give a two cents about?
You cannot do the same when you have a girlfriend or wife, because you need to
work on it or solve your issues. Worst part is when grudges are kept. Men do
not like going back to that and that what commitment is about. If you can
overlook some things that are not too consequential it makes you better.
Monotony in sex is just hard for men and that is what scares
men most of the time. You may be too perfect in
everything but if you cannot keep up with all this women out here and there
tactics…. Have an open mind and embrace experimenting.
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