6 reasons she will not marry you
22 June 2015, 12:51
Nairobi - Women have reasons for avoiding some men, especially in marriage. Here are a few.
You are a liar
I do not think there is an adequate way of me expressing the
way I dislike liars. Hate is a strong word but I think I can add it there too.
I am not sure if it is because of the untrustworthiness or the dishonesty but
the worst are usually the delusional ones. Not women alone can be delusional
but men too. For me it is okay to dream but there is that person who just
dreams unrealistically. You cannot make plans with a delusional person or a
liar. You might end up buying houses you couldn’t actually afford in the first
place or take your children in schools that you thought the both of you could
afford. A lifestyle that is make believe because someone lied to you that is
where they come from when they are not but are burning pockets to keep it up.
Of the many sins a man can commit against me, I just think
lying is the worst because I am not proficient in digging. Digging in the
garden is abhorrent and digging in a man’s business I have no time for. So when
I find out you lied about one thing no matter how small you just become
abhorrent to me because lying is pathological.
Cheating/ adultery is also lying, I would rather you even
tell me about this new female that you suddenly find attractive, so that I can meet
her and see what is so fascinating.
You do not keep your word
If you say you are going to do something, you should do it.
Do not let out on something that you would want me to remind you or keep
begging you to do. I would rather you even keep quiet, do it and surprise me
with it. Once you tell a woman something, it sticks in her head and she will
always be wondering when it is going to happen. Most women will keep asking, I
will not, I just do not know how to parrot things back to you. I have three strikes
for this one, hit the fourth one and I am still there; you should know I am
there physically but making strategies to end the association.
You do not respect me
First of all, respect
in a relationship begins even with the smallest things. When a man respects the
simple things that are important to you, know that you have the right man. If
he does not, do not brush it off and be disgruntled when it gets to the bigger
issues. A friend of mine took me out for lunch and was narrating a predicament
of another woman we know. A fellow colleague whom we all thought was prince
charming had shown some interest in her and she was considering it.
One of the stories that stood out was when once he had asked
her out for a date. He had a prior engagement for the evening so he told her he
would go and would come back to pick her. He tells her to order wine at The
Wine Shop while she waits for him. Five hours later, the guy is a no show and
she was still waiting. It took a friend to drag her out and tell her to go home.
The wine was on him, but she had to pay for it. This is why I tell ladies to
always have money even if it is a date, if she did not it would have been a
She calls it lack of commitment, I call it disrespect
because later when they saw each other at work, no explanation and she
swallowed it! But you know women and wanting a man, she is still considering
the relationship even though that was not the first time.
You are a spendthrift
That is threatening my security and stability. Spending on
frivolous things when you cannot afford it, rings bells with me. Does not
matter if you are a bachelor and have no demands. What you are doing now will
not stop later. You do not care now you will not care later when you have a
family to think about. I have the disease, so I will need my husband not to
have it because what it means is that I will have to work twice as hard and we
all know you can never control a person or their bank account!
You are an addict
Spendthrift ways, alcohol, drugs, porn, and any other
constant that interferes with your logical way of thinking. If you cannot
control it, I will not lie that I will be able to help and stand by all that.
In this I will admit there are stronger women than I am, I have a very short
You are a womanizer
If you read, you might have come across the saying,
‘marriage changes rakehells’. A rakehell can be categorized with a womanizer. A
womanizer does not sprout different wings after marriage. To me that is a lie.
If he is doing it now and you allow him to get away with it, you have given him
a pass that he will use as long as you are together.
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