6 people to never date
01 July 2015, 13:33
Nairobi - My view of dating/ marriage is an extension of how I like to live my
life. Not because it is the next step but because it is something I want not need.
With that being said, I should hope when it becomes
something I feel like doing, not because of societal/ parental or any other
form of pressure. Marriage is something that should make me happy, excited to
go home and not make me feel the opposite. That is why it important that you
should be careful when it comes to the person you choose to share that part of
Looking for a purpose
There are some people who do not have a career and neither
do they have any idea of what they want to do with their life. Or someone who
has reached a point where they feel that what they have now does not satisfy
them but marriage will give them satisfaction. You should not look for marriage
to complete you because it is something that you are sharing with another
They are the ones that will make you miserable because when
they do not get that fulfillment or completion that they were looking for, they
create an uncomfortable home for their partner. Looking for the partner to
solve their unexplained anger for them, to figure out a solution for their
lives. That is not someone you should marry. Let them figure themselves out
first before you choose to settle with them.
A person who cannot think of others above self is not
someone who is ready for marriage neither are they someone you should marry and
want to raise any children you have with. They will never care about you, your
welfare and wellbeing and anything that ever comes up in your life. Marriage
should be a perk in life. You get someone who you helps you take care of
yourself and help you with anything that comes up. If you are not getting that,
then what are the both of you doing? In other words you are garnering yourself
up for spending the rest of your days in despair and being miserable.
Promiscuous/ Unfaithful-constantly on the look out
People do not change but marriage can change one to be more
responsible because they have someone else to think about other than
themselves. On the other hand, if you are with someone who is not willing to
overlook all the others that cross their paths, then that is a sign that that
is not the person that you should be with. The least marriage can do for you is
ensure a healthy (inclusive of no STD risk) sex life without all the
hullaballoo of looking for a partner all the time. If they still look for that
type of excitement elsewhere other than with you, then they are not ready to be
This is easy. Longest relationship is a span of a month, at
most a few months. They do not stick with any plans they told you about. At
times, they get easily bored without completing any mission. Do they even have
an ambition; because it is constantly changing. If those things that should at
least matter do not hold their interest, what makes you think that you can? You
might hold their attention for now but you will always be worried when it will
Also classified as negative and pessimistic. Pessimists are
the worst because they will always put you down on anything and everything.
Support is a perk that you should get in marriage. When everybody else is
saying no, you should at least be able to look forward to going home and have
someone that will stand with you.
This one is self-explanatory. I said earlier that marriage
can make someone become responsible but that is only if it is something that they
You can change a habit but you cannot change a character. If
their character is ingrained in irresponsibility then you should prep yourself
for the upcoming haul that is the rest of your life.
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