6 fab ideas to improve your relationship
16 June 2015, 18:09
Relationship success depend on how you handle them. Here are six ways to ensure yours works for the better.
Do not take criticism too personally
I have a fault. I take things personally. It is something
that I try to work on not just because I want to be good in the relationship I
may get into but because it can translate in everything that you do in everyday
It is worse when you are in a relationship with someone and
they try walk on eggshells around you because they are afraid of the way you
will take it. At times they just keep something that you do that does not
please them to themselves because your reactions are too volatile. Creative criticism
is something that can make you row but only if someone can come and point out a
fault without feeling like they are on trial.
Being resentful for what they do not know
If you know something get it out of your chest. If you know
something, do not think that they know and they are pretending. Someone cannot
pretend on something they do not have a clue about. Do not hold something
against your partner that in actual sense they really have no idea about it.
They might have taken a part in some part of it but not the whole of it. It is
either you just ask or let it go.
Outline your expectations within the relationship
That way you avoid misunderstandings thinking that it is
something that should be done yet they are not doing it. A person may have been
in ten, even twenty relationships but they will never do things as you expect
them to unless you sit them down and tell them that this is what you want.
It is not them lacking to understand you and your needs if
you do not tell them that is what you want. It is not a lack of communication
if you are the one not communicating.
Pointing fingers and blaming the other person will not make
them accept your side of things more. Saying. You, you, and you is worse than
we, we and we. Anyone is more open to listening when they do not feel under
attack. Anyone is more open to doing things your way when they see and hear you
are doing it together rather than you placing the blame fully on their
Have a face to face
It may have been something you saw, heard or something you
came across and you figured they are not here so let me text them or call them
and solve it now. The best way of solving and understanding anything is only
when you are sitting and looking at someone. Texts are open to
misinterpretation and calling, someone is not seeing your expressions or
understanding where your issue is coming from. That is why at times someone
will take things as a joke because you called them and they actually do not
really know where you are coming from. Waiting lets you marinade over the
subject too. You may want to get to the root of it there and then but a good
argument is when you can actually look at someone and understand what their
Your partner will never see it your way
Because they are just not you. You always have to have room
for another person’s ideas, misunderstandings and their emotions-volatile or
not! They will just never see things your way. You have to give room for their
perspective no matter how you feel about it.
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