5 ways to say NO to a man
09 September 2016, 14:17
Nairobi - There is this face I wear when I see a man
coming and he looks like he wants to ask me for more than I am ready to offer.
I have realized that I am not good with
rejection because he will ask why and you can’t always lie that you are busy
because now he will ask, ‘Even on Sunday afternoon you are working?’ And he
will know your answer is a lie.
Then I cannot tell a man, ‘You are not my
type because he will ask me, what my type is and to be quite honest I am not
sure I have a particular because I just know from the onset if I can date a man
or not. It rarely has anything to do
with height, or whatever. Then there is also his ego you do not want to bruise.
It might be easy for some people to be mean but at times you learn that if you
can do away with something without going about it the horrible way then why
have to have a face
What do I mean? It is like a sort of
professional face; it will make someone think twice before coming to you with
bad rubbish. That man will not even ask you the moment you put that face on
because he will just wonder if he is ready to wake up to it even for a week.
Once you wear a mean face, the man will foresee the rejection and not even
approach you with a proposal. Problem is when you are unknowingly doing it and
now your crush will not even approach you.
are in a relationship
I once told a man no and like I said some
people ask the whys and what is wrong with them and now you are out of excuses.
I did not want to hurt his feelings so after all the running around with
excuses I just said I had a boyfriend. I did not have one but some people
cannot take no.
on platonic topics
Don’t approach any subjects about what you
are up to on a weekend or what you enjoy doing because the next question will be,
‘If you are not busy this weekend we can go eat at this place.’ Sometimes it is
not just food when a man tells you to go eat. Unless you pay for yourself and
even if you do you will find yourself fielding questions about your love life.
Now he knows you are single and you cannot make up an imaginary boyfriend to
put the man back in the friend zone.
Never tell a man you are too busy, you
cannot be in a relationship
That man will wait; if he is determined he
will wait and the drama will happen when you eventually find someone and this
guy tells you they have been ignoring everyone for you. You don’t want that
luggage, trust me! You will be uncomfortable.
If all else fails, be honest. Not brutal
but just say, you do not see a situation between the two of you. If you say
future, the man will ask you why you can’t just test the beginning to see where
it goes. If you do not want to do any testing, don’t do it.
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