5 ways to make him run and hide
01 November 2015, 16:47
Nairobi - Are you the freak in the relationship?
You always need to know anything and everything your partner does
You want to have a say even in the smallest things. You get testy even when it comes to their friends and family. It annoys you that they want to go and spend time with them. It annoys you that you have no plans and they choose to spend time with them and not always with you. If you have ever been in a relationship, choosing how your partner dresses becomes part of it and you have someone you can ask but you want to re-invent someone’s wardrobe even when they have not asked you to and they are uncomfortable with what you choose for them.
You basically make your partner feel bad for their own decisions.
Having your partner shoulder your ‘baggage’
They just have to. You expected/ expect things to be done a certain way for you in your relationships. You turn your partners away because some of them cannot afford to or it is just not in them to want a partner who is making such demands. If you have trust issues, they have to deal with it and be the one to make up for mistakes that you previously experienced.
Your partner may have never cheated or lied but now they have to deal with you asking about their whereabouts, with who and you going through their things: phone, texts, wallet or purse. They like you so they put up with it until they just get tired and turned off.
It all has to be my way or it’s no way at all
It is never a discussion with you. It is never a fifty-fifty situation with you. What you say has to go or it does not go anywhere at all. If they even bring a situation that they would like to discuss with you, you do not give an opinion but a solution. They had better go with your solution or you get mad, sulk or petty tantrums.
You find something wrong with everyone your partner comes in contact with
You want to say, ‘I do not like how so and so behaves’, ‘I do not like the company he or she keeps, you will end up like them’. You want your partner to spend less time out and more time in with you. That is why you find everything wrong with everybody else.
You want them to account their spending habits to you
There is nothing wrong especially when you are married to want your partner to be wise when it comes to money. What you need to remember though is that they worked for that money not you. If they are making sure everything else is well taken care of and they like to spend on themselves once in a while, it is none of your business. You cannot make them feel bad about it, they will end up starting to find ways to keep things from you. It is a catalyst for your partner to stop being honest with you.
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