5 ways to know you are in the wrong relationship
21 July 2015, 18:28
Nairobi - A dysfunctional relationship comes in many forms. It does
not have to be about abuse or violence for it to be dysfunctional-just as a by
You are constantly on
the lookout for drama
Like the calm before a storm, you would just like to keep it
that way but you are also watchful because you are looking out for the iceberg
that you are about to hit. It is finally feels good just to be around them but
you are also worried when they will start something up. It is the time that
they will ask to have that conversation that you need to have but they are
never in the right frame of mind to do it properly without it getting into a
Dealing with them
Not in the good but when it comes to arguments there is no
one time that they fail to mention something that you thought you had fixed.
You are here thinking that this is a new chapter but they still have grudges
over things that happened long ago and they keep revisiting when you are on a
completely different issues. What does that lead to? About of angry
recriminations and judgments.
A partner who can
never accept their part of the blame
Everything that is wrong, every issue that is yet to be
fixed, even when it rained when it promised to be sunny ; you are the one that
is to blame and you are the one that is wrong. In this relationship, they are
always the one that is doing the right thing. At times you do not want to
discuss anything with them because they are so petty and throw tantrums but
your part in avoiding argument is a fault in a way because you are now lacking
in proper communication. You can just never win with them.
The guilt trip
A partner that keeps you on your toes and makes you
apologize for everything all in the name of avoiding conflict is not the one
for you. Your partner, the good kind, is one who should enable you to open up
without any fears or recriminations. Someone that you can discuss something
with, not someone you should keep apologizing to for bringing something up.
You are frustrated
because what you expected is not what you are getting
A relationship is something that should create a plus and a
positive in your life. When you are stuck and it is because your partner is not
working with you in what you hoped for-in anything; you will be frustrated. No
matter how good you try to make it, they find ways to bring it down or chip
holes in. That is never how it works.
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