5 ways to ensure your new relationship succeeds
30 October 2014, 14:04
Nairobi - Getting into a new relationship can be exciting, intense,
fulfilling or just another day in someone’s life. It is new so you do not want
to ruin it with your expectations or wants. You are afraid of outlining what
you expect the whole thing to be about. But maybe you should because at times
closing your eyes and taking it as it comes can land you in hot water.
Especially if it is a sexual relationship.
Knowing each other’s limits
This will just save
very one a lot of heartache especially if the other person wants to try
something new. No one suffers any anxiety when they hear experiment because you
were both clever enough to sit down and discuss how far each of you was willing
Never assume things
that is just one of the worst things you can ever do. Assume you are in a
relationship when the other person does not even know that they are in it with
you. At times is better to just ask and get the harsh answer even though it was
not what you wanted to hear. Assuming that this person is only sleeping with
you just opens you up to a lot of risks. Better safe than sorry.
Read also: 3 sex facts you didn’t know about guys
As much as there are a lot of condom advertisements all over
our screens am sure the number of sales made are not the same as the number
that should be made. People do not like talking about sex, just doing it and
they do not want to accept that anyone can get an STD even them. If you are in
a new sexual relationship get it out there, that is what adults do. If you are afraid or worried to do so then
maybe you should not be doing it.
Any sexual problems/dysfunctions
This is a sensitive topic; say it before you do it then the
other person may hightail it and not want to deal with your issues. Do not say
it then you still run the risk of the same happening. That is why many avoid
talking about their positive status. It is like a lose-lose situation. But best
thing is to just get it out of the way and move on. If they do not accept you
for your honesty then they were probably not worth it.
Planning and feedback
Plan sex and it removes the sensationality that surrounds
it. Get into a rut then you probably need to start planning. It’s like you cannot win, it just gets too
technical. But be one with good instincts, have a viable feedback system with
your partner that when something feels off you act on it.
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