5 ways to deal with an emotional partner
31 August 2015, 11:06
Nairobi - What if your partner is emotionally unstable?
Reconcile yourself to the fact
It is always interesting how a person can be good to you in
every other thing, the relationship works and you are happy. But one thing
about them comes up that is not positive and you keep picking on it and
creating a problem out of it. No one is 100%. If they have told you they are not
good with being open with their emotions but are good to you in every sense
then accept it. Extend the olive branch and be the one that is the opposite. That is how the 50-50 rule works. Accept them
as they are and make the good relationship better with the other stuff that the
both of you have going on.
Do not give everything and get nothing back
As stated above, yes you reconcile to the fact but that is
when they are also 100% in every other thing they are bringing to the table. It
is not accepting them and letting them be. Letting them use you because you
have presented yourself as a person of interest to them. You are there for
them, you care for them, you solve their issues but what have they done for you
lately? If the answer is nothing then maybe you should take a step back and see
if they are worried or not.
Be willing to give them space
Someone will be more inclined to come to you with an issue
if you let them marinate on it rather than you badgering them about everything.
You may notice that you keep nagging about the very small issues that when
something really big happens they never even consider talking to you about it.
To them, you have become a loudmouth 24/7. You need to stop and allow them some
breathing space. Not silent treatment but breathing space.
Passive-aggressive action is not mature
The silent treatment is juvenile! ‘So, because you are not
going to open up to me, I am also going to ignore you and you cannot ask me
about anything.’ How so very juvenile of you. That never solves anything and it
actually makes matters worse. They are closed off, you become closed off and
the relationship becomes cold because you want to act like you are
kindergarten. Then you start wondering what went wrong. You!
Don’t let them ruin your relationship
Extend an olive branch not a tree. There is always so much
you can allow someone to get away with in a relationship. They have to
understand that you cannot be the only one trying to make it work. Hold them up
to a certain standard that they cannot escape from. If they do not want to work
with you then maybe they are not worth the effort. They are not allowed to
bring their past issues with other people against you and hold it over your
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