5 unreasonable things women look for in men
09 May 2016, 22:48
Nairobi - There is fact, fiction and unreasonable things women want in relationships.
He should be handsome
My sister wants a husband that is light skinned. Wait, don’t
laugh because at first it is hilarious until she explains herself, then you do
get it. My sister is dark skinned- a beautiful dark skin, thing is she is
worried how her children will turn out if they are both black as sin. In the
exact words she told my mother, ‘Sasa mimi ni mweusi halafu nioe bwana mweusi.
Sasa watoto watakaaje jameni?’ (‘Now, I am dark and then I marry a dark
husband. How will the kids look like?’)
I have a friend who shares the same sentiments. It is not
handsome, but seriously, choosing a husband based on how light or dark he
is-that is funny especially when they explain themselves to you. Now my friend
has decided she is not marrying her boyfriend because he is as black as sin
(Really, the first time I met him I did a double take. Didn’t know Luos could be that dark). I wish I was a
fly in that room when she breaks it off. ‘It
is not you. It is me. You are just too black.’
I always say, marry someone who is nice to you, the kids and
their looks will sort themselves out. Even handsome couples produce very funny
looking beings. Looks vs. treatment…Looks vs. treatment. Be smart.
He should own a house
Yesterday I was watching The Property show and they
advertised some apartments on the Riverside Drive. Guess the price? 35 million
shillings, not 3.5 or 0.35 or some other figure you think am confusing. 35 million shillings for a two bedroom apartment- Kwani it is transporting me to and from
work? Kenyan Real Estate can be a joke at times.
Then you come in, you don’t own a house yourself but you
want a boyfriend that owns one. It is not a bad idea, but how about if you find
a man that is hardworking, you marry him and eventually own a house together.
Young men trying to get off the ground will not be able to afford a house. Not
unless you are talking sugar daddy or someone else’s husband. In which case,
don’t listen to me.
How about hard working, ambitious and smart? These things
take time; he will be successful as your husband at 40 but you want that now
from a guy trying in his 20s or early 30s. This is why you are single.
Knows how to have fun
and is funny
You can’t have everything-sorry to ruin it for you. You can
have ‘knows how to have fun’ but this one will have no saving or spends his
money on people at the bar and buying for everyone and taking them out because
that is fun. Si, you want fun? If you
two settle together you will be the one picking up the serious living expenses.
Don’t complain, you wanted that.
Funny men are usually not what you expect in the
presentation department. They can learn, you can teach him, but that is after a
lot of humorous escapades where you are the joke amidst friends. If you care
what people think, that is why you are single. You overlook what you want to
please other people.
Treats me like a
You better be bringing a castle to the table if this is the
case. Look like your demands-sorry to say. Also, that kind of treatment comes
at a price; one of you will have to know how to back down. Guess what? It will
not be him. If you do not know how to serve, be womanly and what not, don’t
Hardworking and successful
people also do not have time to treat you like a princess. They. Are. Working.
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