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5 tips when dating a younger man

28 January 2016, 13:24 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - I can consciously say that I can have an opinion on this subject because I have done the necessary and participated by dating the younger man.

I will be honest and admit that I have never even considered dating someone who is younger than I am. There is just something about a younger man approaching you that makes you smell something fishy; like he is looking for a sponsor or a sugar mummy. So when I see no stubble, I snub that person before they get too close.

But I decide, it is 2016 and since I have nothing going on in my personal life; I should try this and advise my fellow women on it. Either way, it is not like the older men I dated in 2015 were acting as mature as I expected. So when this young fellow approached me and kept insisting that he can handle me since I wasn’t the first older woman he dated, I decided okay, let us do this.

First of all, before any woman decides to go into a relationship with a younger man, there are a couple of things you should look out for. You just don’t jump onto anything that comes and say it is interested

He has a handle on his own life

Like I mentioned, you do not want someone who is coming to tell you, I need this, help me with this or I haven’t made this payment. You do not want to end up being his sugar mummy or his sponsor. You want to date someone who understands himself and his life. Not someone who is coming to knock on your door at mid-night because he is from the rave and has nowhere to go. That one will be looking for a helper and not a relationship.

You want someone mature

Maturity does not come with age by the way, as I mentioned earlier, some of this men that boast of age are completely lacking in every other thing that actually matters. For example, no handle on their life, not sure what they want from you, not having a plan from A-are they going to B or C? Someone who will not understand you or what you expect, someone who does not know how a woman is to be treated-the list goes on and on and on. If your young adult approaches and has all of that, then why say No and fall for the fool who will stress you forever or throughout the relationship?

These were the first things I checked for and decided that the rest would be figured out later. But as I was deeper and deeper into that situation, I realized that age is rarely the problem but the generational gap is what creates the differences in the relationship between a younger man and older woman.

You can never have future conversations with a man you started telling you just want to have fun with

Number one mistake most women do is they think, let me just do this for fun while I concentrate on other things. I can never be serious with someone younger than I am because he is obviously immature and needs life to slap him around. But you get in and you realize that most of these guys have their life better set up than their older mates. They know where they are going, how they want it to happen and what direction not to take-they have a plan. They know what is good for them and they will not budge in because of you. Women respect that. So she went there expecting disappointment but she is now realizing that this man might actually be good for her. Problem is, you told him you do not want anything serious and he agreed because he also liked that idea.

He is too focused on his life plan, he is not thinking of marriage and life-long plan with you. You are going to lose here especially if you are on the clock.  If the future was not on his plan with you, it is not going to change. No matter how many conversations you try to bring up about it, he will just dump you because now you are stressing him by changing the initial agreement.

There will be an imbalance of power/equality

The older woman goes in thinking she will reign over him because today’s men are raised to be sissy’s. Not so, some of these younger men grew up with a strict upbringing from a father that is still around. Dare you think that he will allow himself to be pushed around by a woman? You might have dated your peers and that was quite easy to do but you get a younger man who is not willing to compromise as you expected and you have to start wondering if you should give in to make it all work. And if you give in, will he think it is weakness and start doing worse form there?

The social factor

Will you be embarrassed to introduce him to your peers, associates, family? Or will you be embarrassed to have get-togethers with his own peers? What about meeting his family and the mother does not like the idea of this old woman taking advantage of her son? Are you ready for that bashing?  It seems inconsequential up until that moment you have no idea what the other person does when they are not with you or you cannot get together personally because none of you wants the other around while they are with their peers. They do not want to be judged.  It will eventually break the relationship.

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