5 tips to deal with a sex-less relationship
20 April 2016, 19:42
Nairobi - I do not know what time period should pass before someone
really exclaims that it is actually too much in their relationship. Some are
comfortable when they go a month while others exclaim when it is a week
overdue. I have heard of people who have gone over a year without, and they are
married; so am not sure if it is a thing the both of you agree on or you are
just fine not knowing if your spouse might be window shopping.
And we are obviously not talking about people in a long
distance relationship/marriage but people who wake up and sleep in the same
house. It is understandable for a woman to get into that place where you just
do not want anything to do with intimacy and you go out of your way to avoid it
What can you do to improve the situation before it gets out
Reduce your workload
Especially at home. Ask any husband and he will agree that
if it came between having you wash the shirts and cook or you being rested
enough for sex; he will choose the latter. I can imagine coming home at the end
of the day, battling traffic, then setting about homework and cooking dinner.
You can give yourself some well-deserved rest time some times of the week, if
you see that it is interfering with intimacy and let the house help deal with
Watch what you eat
A bad diet has a direct influence on how you feel and your
hormones. Too much sugar and you will notice that you get drained faster and
easier. For example at work, when it is quicker and cheaper to eat a bag of
chips and not get a well cooked meal. It gives you an instant boost but by 4
you will be sluggish. By the time you get home you are too whipped to do
anything other than wait to eat and go to sleep. I am not saying have rabbit food, but have rabbit
food it is way better for you.
Take a walk
At times when they tell you exercise, they do not mean that
you become a gym rat; a walk does work as well. Walking/ jogging after you get
home in the evening does work or walking a distance back home from work, works
as well. It gives you an energy boost. It also gives you a lot of body
confidence when you notice that walking has major improvement on your body as
compared to driving to and from work.
Some medications have an impact on your hormonal imbalance.
If you notice that your medication does this, just have a conversation with
your doctor and they will give you something better.
Talk to your partner
At times you keep quiet hoping that they also do not notice
but they do notice and when someone starts thinking they are being deprived
they get more confident in finding an outlet because they now have an excuse
that is viable. If you do not want to get to that point, have a talk with them
so that you can at least come up with something even if it is not every day.
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