5 things you should know about your partner
14 September 2015, 15:15
Nairobi - There are things you must know about your partner. MUST!!
How they react to situations
How your partner handles themselves is what you will have to
deal with. Are you ready for a lifetime of that; because in marriage a
situation is not a missed phone call or a forgotten date? It is joint finances,
two careers or one that is working out while the other is not contributing.
Children or inability to have them; who will get blamed for that one? That is
what happens when two people without understanding become each other’s
How they handle
conflict with you
Fights! Every couple has been or gets to that situation; for
one minor thing or another major one. How do the two of you handle your
conflict? Is it through silent treatment? Is it a blame game or a he said, she
said? Do you choose to ignore and sweep of things or the two of you are really
temperamental and it gets violent. How you do it now is obviously how you will
handle it later. The small issues will become bigger issues within marriage and
you will choose the same methods.
What do you know about
Aside from other petty reasons we choose to look up our
partner’s exes, it tells us about their former relationships. How they handled
an ex will give you an inkling of your relationship. Will it be better or worse?
How their relationship functioned will give you an idea of whether yours is
working for the better or worse. Should you settle with them or not?
Do you like them as
they are now?
You need to like your partner, their character, their habits
and hobbies as they are now. Hoping to change someone or hoping that they will
change is the worst decision that a lot of partners make. The best
relationships that make for successful marriages are ones where the couples enjoy
each other as they are now. If they grow and change for the better that only
makes them happier and makes them want to make it work more. The opposite is
what makes for miserable circumstances.
Their living habits
I support cohabitation for one reason; you get to really
know your partner. In their full gear! No hide and seek no pretending and or
camouflaging. When you only see your partner once or twice a week, when they
have had to clean up before you visit, you do not actually know what they are
up to 24\7. You need to know their habits, from cleaning, hoarding, slob
behaviour and etc. That way you know the devil you are dancing with and have
nothing to complain about and fight about.
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