5 things to do when he proposes
24 April 2015, 15:25
Nairobi - When you are out here in the jungle dating people, being in
relationships and being exclusive with that one person whilst shunning all the
others, what is the happiest day of a woman’s life?
When he pops that elusive question that keeps you awake all
night, reminding you of the days you used to stay up cramming for exams. That
is your joyous moment as ‘his’ woman. You are yet to be his completely until
you get that certificate.
You have proved to yourself and to him that you are better
than the others or, he just could not wait for Keisha to break up with Tom so
that he could swoop in and cast odes to her on his undying love and timeless devotion.
What is the first thing that you as a woman do after you get
Call all your friends and inform them of this joyous moment
Not because you want them to share in it but because 1. You
call the single one’s first to rub it in that you no longer run in their crowds
and you beat them to it, and 2. You call the married ones who also rubbed it in
your face when they got engaged before you. Just to prove yours was around the
You will use social media as your first official invitation
You will post on Facebook so that everyone knows your man
proposed while the others are still lacking a man. You will take a picture of
the ring (if you got one) so that you can show how many carats you got or in
some instances a plain band. You will also tweet how happy you are and you can
no longer need to worry that you appear thirsty on people’s DMs.
Then you will remember to tell your parents
When they did not even know you were in a relationship. You
did not want to raise any false hopes because at the back of your mind you knew
that he was not 100% in.
They did not know that when you moved out you were involved
in some come we stay type of situation your mother was praying against.
Then everyone asks how he did it?
Was it on a bended knee? Took you on a trip and propose by
the ocean or was it at Uhuru Gardens in a boat. Or that fancy restaurant that
you wanted but it did not pan out that way.
All, okay…most women daydream about how they would like the
man that they are with to propose to them. If he is not in terms with your best
friend, chances are you will get the short end of the uuuuh…stick-let’s call it
stick. Other times for him, it is just as simple as doing it while you are
eating that Ugali and Sukuma wiki whilst Kenya Power plays trick or treat on
that weekday. While you are stuffed with Ugali, he pops that question. I think
white lies were invented by some woman because we both know that that is not
the story your friends will hear. You did not like the proposal, but you are
happy that at least now you have the ring.
When you are proposed to, the first person or people who
should hear about it is not your friends but your parents. They are the only
people who will give you an honest opinion and expression. That is what you
want not false flattery. It is also them who will actually share that joy with
you because it is also a day that they dream of us well-both the mother and the
No need to post it on social media, your business should
always be your business not a global transaction
The friends should be told together over lunch or coffee.
You know how it is with women, one friend thinks she is better than the other.
Or above the other. Whichever one you tell first, there is someone in the group
she will call to tell your news to. Be the one to deliver it so that there is
no mis- communication and twisted details.
Do not start planning a wedding. An engagement is when you
start actually testing each other as a married couple. Do not start booking a
church, afew days in, you both get overwhelmed and you pull out. Let it simmer
for a minute but set a timeline. Do not let someone use
you as a placeholder while still hoping for Keisha to come around.
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