5 things they will never say about sex
16 April 2015, 16:37
Nairobi - A baby is something most but not all women look forward to. For the majority who are looking forward to have a baby, there are lot of things that are not considered especially when you are married or have a live-in boyfriend. Sex will not be the same, even if you do have a C-section as compared to a natural birth be ready to know that things just shifted down there. Put it down to the 3+ more pounds that you had lagging around in your uterus.
After giving birth, the last thing on any new mother’s mind is having, you are tired from taking care of a new born. Your Kenyan born husband does not believe that it is manly to wake up and change diapers or feeding bottles. Woe unto you if you have twins and the husband is not in sight but rather in bed. Most women are given the okay to have sex after 6-8 weeks.
Your orgasms might just be different
Put it down to the hormones or the pelvic muscles not being as functional as they used to be but what might have worked before might not be working anymore. Before you might have climaxed quickly these days it takes longer and you get bored along the way. What was functional may no longer work.
You might react in the negative and lose interest because what you used to enjoy does not work anymore. What you need to do is just find something else that will actually work. Being a mother does not make you any less of a sexual being only that you might be more or less attuned to some things because of what I mentioned before. You might also have to work harder on your pelvic muscles.
Emotional or even the physical response to sex is not the same
The lack of libido may play a part in the beginning. When you eventually do feel like having sex, you might not even be sure about it. Common belief is that women lose an altogether interest in sex. Not so and it does not apply to all women. You can be one of the few that actually will want to but mix in exhaustion and hormonal imbalance as well as baby blues. You will not be sure of it but some women can actually desire to have sex with their partner.
You will need contraceptives
While breast feeding a lot of women forego to use any form of medication to avoid affecting the lactating baby. But, if you are thinking of having sex yo might actually think of getting yourself on contraceptives if you do not want another surprise coming your way after nine months. Does not matter if you are still breastfeeding or are yet to see the monthly visitor. You can get pregnant.
Leaking of the breasts during orgasms or arousal
Not a lot of women know this. Leaking is only associated where the child is concerned. But you might also experience it in the midst of action. You might want to warn your partner if he is one that does not take surprises well.
Lubricant is your friend
It is not abnormal to go for a helping hand after birth. Your sexy hormones might be late in kicking in and you might still be experiencing a drought down there. To prevent further tearing especially if you had an episiotomy during the birthing process, use lube.
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