5 things not to do when you meet a new man
16 March 2016, 20:00
Nairobi - Maybe he already is the ‘love’ of your life, your ‘soul mate
or whatever but for starters, let us hold off on letting him know about that.
Just keep it to yourself no matter how much you would like to let him know you
have marked him as your territory. It is even better when you are around him,
maybe as a work colleague so you know what he is always up to 24/7 and you just
love how much of a workaholic he is
so you stay behind at work as well-to work! Obviously you are keeping tabs.
It is always worse when you cannot keep tabs on someone and
you blink once and they are in a relationship already.
What not to do when you meet a new guy that is already the
‘love’ of your life.
always communicating-texting and calling the man the whole day
The man says ‘let us keep the communication lines open’ and
you go overboard with it.Don’t be crazy when a man shows interest; no matter
how much you would like to remind him that you are still available, keep it on
the low. Talk, say hi and good morning and let the man go back to work and you
too as well.
Then when you see the time is about right, on a weekend or
something you organize for drinks or lunch-whatever yours and his preference.
Just don’t be tiresome because men easily do get bored and if you are boring
before you even get the title, you will not even make it to that round because
your crazy is showing.
Don’t take your
friends along for dates-ever!
Take it from me, this is the most juvenile thing you can do
as an adult woman in your dating life. If you are dating you should be mature
enough to see creep level all on your own without dragging your friends along.
Friends meet your man when he is YOUR man not before because you instantly
become a turn off. How will he even get to know you when there are other people
around? You go for double dates further down the line. Let a man be comfortable
with you first before bringing other people in. That is baggage overload.
Don’t ‘drop’ in-at
his house/ his work or his family functions
Women keep tabs on their romantic interests. I don’t even
need to say more about that but you want to go in to see if there is somewhere
else other than you in the picture. That is creep level 1000. There probably
isn’t any person but just keep doing this a couple more times and you will not
even get out of the friend zone. No one wants a creepy girlfriend who is an FBI
Asking for money
I don’t know how true this one is because a lot of
men-Kenyan men- complain that women they have barely gotten to know have the
temerity to ask them for money. Then the women are saying that the men are
stingy and they are independent. Which one between these two groups is lying?
It is Kenya; all of you are lying! Anyway, when you are getting to know someone
as a lady, don’t ask for money. If he is taking you on a date to unreachable
places just tell him what you are more comfortable with so that you don’t
overspend in taxis.
trying to find out what is in his pocket
Every time you bring up his work or how easy/ comfortable
his life is- you get a label on the forehead that rends him why you are undateable. That is why he did not call
again. Find other ways to phrase a question about your interest in what he
does. But if they all end up with his billings, you just end up looking like
someone trying to find out if he can sustain your lifestyle.
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