5 steps to ending your relationship
21 October 2015, 15:29
Nairobi - Your relationship struggling? Why?
Do you know why respect in a relationship is important;
because some things can just never cross its borders! Respect overshadows the
boundaries that love crosses.
It is the little things you should do that you choose to not
This is when somebody no longer cares if you are angry they
did not do what they always did. They do not care if you choose to yell because
they actually chose not to pay rent or buy food. They just do not care. You can
do what you want and they will do what they want.
Ignoring what you know your partner detests
Actually you now choose to do it so that you can annoy them
and get on their nerves. It is your one way of now getting satisfaction for
what they also did do to you. If you made an effort not to flirt around them at
the office party, you now have ten girlfriends for the whole night just so you
can hear them banging things or yelling. If you made the effort to clean up
after using the kitchen or where you put your dirty clothes, you now do the
You involve the children in things they should not be
When you choose to use your children against your spouse;
either they can no longer see them or you limit the time that the kids have
around them to be with your partner. You tell your child something they should
not even know so that they can have negative feelings against your partner. You
do not see it but you are also ruining the relationship the child has with you
because they keep to themselves to avoid you and your issues. Children are
neutral, they will feel bad you are preventing them from seeing the other
parent and they will blame you even if you did not do the first mistake.
Payback for petty crimes between the two of you
Your marriage/ relationship become a battle ground for who
can get one over the other. You chose not to get over what the other one did
because you are not going to be the stupid one in the relationship-you have to
get your own back. It becomes a back and forth that outside people become party
to your little disagreements. You are no longer doing it because you are in
pain but just so the other people know that your partner did not get away with
Undermining each other within the marriage
Children, family and other outside parties are privy to your
bad behaviour because you end up letting them know since you are trying to make
the other person look bad.
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