5 signs you love your friend's man
17 August 2015, 19:09
They say that a friend is most likely to end up cheating with your man. Here's 5 ways to know if you are falling in that direction.
Giving unwanted advice
If you are not asked, do not speak. Also do not keep asking
about how they are, how she feels, what is he up to then start giving her
advice on how best to cope with it. At times it is just better to let people
make their own mistakes so that you are not caught in the crossfire. What will
happen is, you will be blamed for any outcome especially when it is bad. It
will itch you especially when they start talking about something and you want
to save them but do not.
Giving bad advice
Let’s just say if you are not a therapist, do not do it. You
might think you know but you do not. On the other hand, you might want to get
your friend’s man or just make your friend as single as you are. In which case,
I think you know what you are doing.
Interfering in their
If they are arguing, let them argue. If they are hurling
things at each other, move out of the way. If you are sitting on the opposite
side of the table, this is the best time to text imaginary people. Just do not
interfere unless you are asked to or if it is a life-threatening situation. Do
not call her man to’ find out his side of the story’ or help him make his
dinner because she is still mad and you want to help. Do not interfere.
Allowing her man to
use you to make her jealous
Once upon a time, a man who was trying to get into my
friend’s pants was using me to make her jealous. Overly asking me about my
opinion. Taste this, taste that, what do you think of this? Hugging me unnecessarily
around her. I did not think anything of it then but in hindsight I now realize
what he was doing. Needless to say, I did serve my purpose in making her want
him some more.
meeting her man without her knowledge
This should have been the first because it happens all the
time. It has also ruined a lot of relationships-on both sides. Unless your
friend asks you to talk to her man on her behalf, then do not do it. It does
not matter if you think your relationship is independent from theirs. Or you
are trying to build a better relationship with him for her sake. Do not do it.
Calling, texting and meeting should be done at least once in 3-6 months and it
is because you are solving an issue or planning a surprise. All day, every day
or once a week is not allowed. Unless you are intentionally going after your
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