5 signs of relationship desperation
17 August 2015, 19:09
Relationships are not easy. Desperation in relationships is though.
Over texting even when
they have not replied
You sent the first text. You wait for them to reply. They
don’t. Then you keep checking your phone very few minutes so you start
wondering if maybe your phone has a problem. You dismember it then put it back
on. Then you send a couple of other texts asking them if they are getting your
texts. They still do not reply.
Maybe they just got caught up in something or they just do
not have anything to say. Wait. Sending a profusion of texts and forcing them
into a reply makes you look bad. If they do not reply, then it is no longer
your problem. The ball is in their court.
even without having created the right kind of attraction
Because you want to be in a relationship so bad, you get so
over-excited after the first couple of encounters. Maybe you already had sex on
the first date and now they went quiet/. So you start wondering if you gave
‘it’ up too easily and way to fast. Or you are in the friend zone and you are
running out of time. Having feels for someone who you are not yet sure of shows
them your insecurities and that makes you distasteful if they are not yet there
with you yet.
It will also make them uncomfortable and not make them want
to be around you.
Showing up unannounced
‘Hi, I was in the neighborhood and I decide to say hi!’ Can
we have lunch or you made that lunch and brought it with you. Showing up at
someone’ place of work or house unannounced is a bad look and it makes them
uncomfortable because now they either have to lie to avoid you or force
themselves into the situation you have brought around. Take a pick but either
way, you may not be well received unless they have that strong attraction and
affection for you.
Making future plans
Planning a future with someone or for someone you are on a
second date with is never a good look. You already know you look desperate and
needy. If you asked for this date, let them set up the next one. If they do
not, then you are priority on their list. That should serve as a sign for you
to have other people to see so that if they let you down you do not get broken
Hinging on exclusivity
way too early
‘What are we?’ the two most dreaded words uttered to people
who were caught off-guard. Either you had sex early and think it is a done
deal. A couple of dates does not mean you are going somewhere. You are going
somewhere only if you are their top priority. You are running the race each
with each other and at the same pace. That is when you ask, ‘what are we?’ At
times you will not even need to ask because you will know.
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