5 signs of emotional cheating
24 November 2015, 18:19
Nairobi - What is emotional cheating? Does it exist?
You feel more
comfortable telling them than you do telling your partner
They know more about what is bothering you, what you are
thinking of doing and what matters than you do tell your partner. You separate
yourself from the fact because you tell yourself that your partner would never
understand. What you do not realize is that you are creating a deeper bond with
them just from the little things you keep telling them.
The two of them in the
room and you would rather be talking to the other person
Let us say a work event; you are asked to bring your spouse
but you do not even want to because you like your ‘work husband’ or ‘work wife’
more. You are worried about hurting their feeling because you will not be able
to spend time with them.
And if you bring your partner along you still look longingly
at the other person because you would rather be talking to them and not your
You make comparisons
between the two
You are not aware of it but when the two of you are having a
conversation, you keep thinking, ‘this is why I talk to him/ her more because
they have understood. Unlike so and so who would have created a bigger
situation out of it.’ You justify yourself by making it seem like you talk to them
more because they understand you and what you are about.
Instead of ‘what will
we do?’ you are thinking, ‘what would they have done or said?’
When you are making a decision, you keep going back to what
they would have told you to do or what they would have said. It is no longer a
two person equation but a three person decision because if possible you would
go and ask them ‘what is the best action for the two of you; in the relationship to take?’
You cannot wait to
tell them about your last spat
If you and your partner have an argument, you cannot wait to
call them on the phone, send a text message or when you next see them for you
to spill the beans. You like being consoled by them and talking to them because
they ‘get you’ as no one else does.
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