5 signs he is wasting your time
22 December 2015, 16:51
Nairobi - And you really just don’t need to be bothered by finding out
where you went wrong. You actually didn’t do anything, they were just passing
I don’t want to hold
‘I am not sure of myself at the moment. You seem to have a
clue of where you are going and I am not ready yet. I still want to figure
myself out and where my life is headed. I wish you all the best in your journey
and the next person will be what you need.’
Simply put; they want the journey but not with you as a
It’s not you it’s me
The oldest line in the book that guilt trips the other
person preventing them from creating a scene; make the other person feel good
while you drag yourself through the mud that way, they make excuse for you.
They understand and they see that you are saving them from wasting their time.
In their head they are doing cartwheels because they are getting the response
they were banking on; being blame-free after it is over and you all along knew
you were done with them.
You deserve better
Make the other person feel good; drag yourself through the
mud. They agree with you because here it is all about your self-worth. You will
agree because you do indeed deserve better but because they pointed it out, you
are hoping they will self-improve and come back to you. So you keep in touch
while ignoring other people.
We are at different
points in our lives
We just do not have the same goals and visions as we might
have at one point. Syke- they knew what they were doing; passing time. So they
bank on your fear of tying yourself to someone with different values from you
and being miserable. You agree because you are hoping for better. They get what
they want-drama free break up.
I am focusing on my
You will probably be doing yourself a favor if you don’t
waste your time waiting around for a commitment from me. I am not ready and if
you wait around; the blame will be on your shoulder for wasted time with
nothing to show for it; namely-a commitment from me.
What you end up doing in the end is placing the blame on
yourself wondering what you must have done wrong, You keep wondering what you
could have done better for them to want you more or sustain the relationship.
What most people never understand is that when someone already knew you were
not it for them, nothing you ever do or did could have ever changed that. You
were just not it for them but you want to hold on to an idea of what you
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