5 signs he is serious about you
19 April 2016, 21:02
Nairobi - Have you ever broken up with someone and then they pulled
the rag right under you by asking, ‘We were in a relationship?’ Bet you did not
tell anyone about that one.
Women are the type to give those kinds of ultimatums, ‘I
don’t even know what I saw in you. I have better people who want me.’ Only for
the man to give you a very blank look like, ‘We were together?’ All this time
you were in a relationship but by yourself. All the signs were there from their
lack of effort but you chose to assume that since they do this then it can only
mean that I am that for them.
You have met the
family-especially the father and mother
Our generation has no respect for many things so why would
you assume that just because someone introduced you to their parent it means
Most of our parents don’t even live in the rural areas like
their old folks, so when you go pick someone up from their home and their
parent is there, obviously, they will not act like you are not there but they
will introduce you. If they say, ‘This is my friend….’ You are a friend. If
they say, ‘This is someone I have been seeing and they are my girlfriend…’ then
you have the title. For now!
You have the keys to
Rule Number one: Unless someone is your man/ your boyfriend;
don’t go washing utensils and cooking for him. That man is not yours why are
you being his maid. On the other hand, if you have been cooking and cleaning so
that the man can see your wife material skills then now you know why you have
the keys to his house. You are helping him make his work easier so why would he
not be smart enough to give you keys to his house so that you can make it clean
and make him food before you leave to go
to your own house? These days’ men are not worried about being robbed.
You have met the
Not a very big deal by the way. That is not a sign. This is not a sign.
‘But he said…..’ No, it is not a sign. Ladies, you should
not want to meet his friends if he has not made his intentions clear to you.
Let him tell you, ‘you are my friend.’ Or ‘we are just friends with benefits
keeping it between us.’ The worst thing that can happen to you is when you wear
your heart on a sleeve for a man and his friends already know he is just using
you until he gets the lady they all know he really wants. You look really dumb.
Don’t look forward to meeting a man’s friends if he has not told you what you
are to him because they already know.
He invites you to go
out with him
Unless a man says, ‘I want to try this with you.’ ‘I want
you to be my girlfriend.’ He can just invite you out because he likes your
company. That is all. A man can take you out, call you every Friday for a nice
weekend trip and buy you lunch or whatever but that does not mean a thing if he
does not say so. He might just like spending time with you but just not enough
to make you his. He might just like your conversations or your nature or your
jokes. If you do not like this, let him be and move on, don’t stick around
hoping he will change.
He buys you gifts
I also buy my friends-the ones that I like very much-gifts;
does not mean I am dating them. When you do things for a man, for example, wash
his shirts. The very gentlemanly ones will feel very uncomfortable when they
know you are wasting yourself on him. What do you think he will do? He will buy
you a gift to assuage his guilt. He does not want to have a long drawn out
conversation about how he should have told you his intentions. He will buy
gifts so that when you want to cry about it, you will know you did not do it
for free either.
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