5 reasons your mother in law is important
05 March 2016, 17:57
Nairobi - Having a good relationship with your mother in law is important. Here's why.
Your mother in law is the one that might only be able to help you when it comes to dealing with people from his side
If you have an issue with them, if they are disrespecting you or if they hate you on sight and give you grief-she will change their attitudes if she likes you. If you do not make an effort though or decide to pretend and later show your true colors, it will all mess you up later. You will always have a hard time with his relatives.
If he starts acting up, she might just be your first, last and only resort to actually working out the issue
I think that the sentence explains itself really well. But most times when your relationship is on the rocks, the only person from his side that will even be able to sit him down and tell him anything might be his mother. It is better if she is on your side. If on the other hand you have always ignored her, who tells you she will be ready to work it out for you if you have always been condescending.
She is important to your kid’s lives
You cannot keep her grandchildren away from her; unless she is a really bad influence and even then, you can’t keep the kids from knowing an important person in their father’s life.
She might be the only person who will enable you to understand your husband
As much as you think you know everything-you don’t! There will be things you will want to question or have questions about. If you have a good relationship with the mother then she will be able to help.
The ‘vibe’ she gives you might be the ‘vibe’ everyone adopts
A bad vibe from the mother-in-law is something you do not want. You do not want that especially if you join a family that is heavily involved into each other’s lives; they have get togethers a lot, go to the village on most if not all holidays and any function that brings them together. You will have to deal with bad attitudes and segregation all the times if she dislikes you. If it is the opposite then you will also enjoy the holidays.
You can also say you are not going because you will be keeping your children away from their relatives. They will become a bad seed as well to the others.
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