5 reasons you fail to meet new people
27 August 2015, 19:06
Nairobi - Any place is a great place to meet people. Typically, I
would say people you meet at the bar or club are not relationship material but
what the hell; it is the one of the few places you actually go to have fun and
relax after a busy week.
Why are you still single then and not meeting any great
You get too drunk
Drunk has never looked good on any one. No one wants to be
the one to deal with the drunken spotlight of the party. Having to drag them
around, allow them to lean on your shoulder while they doze off or having to
keep an eye on you. No one will approach you with that behavior. Drink
responsibly so that you can actually have a conversation with someone if they
come to talk to you.
I am not saying that you should be there as punctual as when
the happy hour starts but it should be in between. Too early and you will be
bored alone or get tipsy early. Too late and people will have already left or
already coupled up.
You are afraid to
approach people so you wait for them to approach you
What is the worst that can happen? They tell you that they
are waiting for someone or they give you a condescending look? So what? You
will most probably not see them again. If you see someone, sitting alone, and
you might like to meet them; go ahead and approach them. That might be your
future husband or wife or you already left them to leave with someone else.
Paying attention to
the wrong people
You go to a group of people; you target someone, and try to
win their attention. They frown at you, are non-receptive or they tell you they
are with someone but you still hang around hoping they will change their mind.
You have just wasted time and good money on drinks for someone (and their group
of friends) who does not want to get to know you. Move on to the next one.
You need a wing
It is better to approach someone alone because you
intimidate them less as compared to doing it with someone. You will now have to
figure out the exit strategy for your friend. Then, you might have just made
your prey focus on a friend whom she or he might end up liking instead of you.
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