5 reasons to forget your EX
07 December 2015, 18:52
Nairobi - Your ex is the past. Leave them behind.
You keep bringing it up to the wrong party, your new beau
Talking is good, letting them know what happened is okay but
talking about it every other time is a bad thing. You make a mistake and your
first excuse is, ‘it is because of what happened in my last relationship.’ You
have already failed. They do not want to keep having a discussion about your ex
but just the two of you.
It creates trust and honesty issues
Maybe it was cheating, abuse or dishonesty. If you did not
get over it, you do not realize it but you feel justified to check on someone
that has done nothing yet. Expecting the worst of someone will eventually push
them into delivering it to you because either way you always suspect them, so
You use it to judge all your future partners
You now have a mentality that everyone is the same as long as
they come from that gender. You are eliminating the chance of them being good
to you by being a nuisance. No one wants to deal with that and they will
eventually leave you for attitude. Everyone wants someone who wants and expects
the best from them; if you are going in thinking the opposite you are also
showing them how you view yourself. Who wants to be with someone who does not
think highly of themselves? It shows
they are also just as bad .
Unresolved anger issues
Bitterness, resentment always shows. You do not even have to
speak, you face already has lines to show it. Such a person you will not want
to be around because every little thing, they will combust. They find something
to complain about. And you know relationships, there will inevitably be some
arguments but if you are already that angry, you are not someone I would like
to be around.
Comparing them to your former partner
Maybe you did not have heartbreak but the other guy just
decided they were done with you. You are still in love so the relationships you
eventually end up in are not about moving on but you finding a replacement that
could give you that feeling again. Your
relationships become about you complaining what the other partner did better,
did for you and why your current is not doing the best they can because they
could do better-like your ex.
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