5 reasons he is attracted to you
17 September 2015, 16:30
Nairobi - You have probably heard of the saying that; ‘you cannot keep
anyone if they do not want to be kept by you.’ Mostly true.
But at times the person you are with has no idea if they are
ready or if they would ever want to commit. Through your actions and deeds, you
can actually change their mind. Not that it is full-proof but it is a start.
Your attitude when entering the relationship, throughout the
relationship/ getting to know each other or when they are with you. Your
attitude towards them and how you look at things. Some people take the partners
they are with for granted. They also take what is being done for them, no
matter how big or small as their due because they think it is their due.
Attitude can also be taken as appreciation. When your partner does something
small or they go out of their way to make sure you are comfortable but you
still find a way to make them look bad. You become a turn off. Who would want
to stay with someone who turns them off just by their presence?
Many do not know how to take their partner as they are
because you get into a relationship hoping to change them. Hoping that as they
grow older they will become something you want and not a better version of
themselves. If you ever want a lasting relationship, let it not be with someone
you are thinking of changing but lie them as they are now. You get less
disappointed when you learn to not expect things from people. We all want to be
better people but not be with someone who does not accept us for what we are
I think this one should have even gone first. Circumstances
change and situations never stay the same. What you have now, could be gone
tomorrow. What you do not have now you may get or maybe never even get. We all
want someone whom when things do not work out they can keep their head. If an
emergency happens, an accident or financial straits take a toll, we do not want
a partner who will heap abuse on us but will sit down and help us get a
solution while we adapt.
Not changing but challenging; the two notions often get
confused. You challenge someone to become a better version o themselves every
day. You seek their self-improvement in positive ways and not negative such as emotional
abuse and negative criticism.
Looks are always a bonus but what else? I should
be able to talk to you and you should be able to hold a conversation with your
partner without them being lost and lapsing to an uncomfortable silence. Stimulation
does not just come from the physical but the mental as well.
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