5 reasons he does not want you at his house
20 March 2015, 18:41
Nairobi - Yes, a man can NOT want you to sleep at his house. At times,
the logic in him wins over the sex minded part of him.
Men can be terribly funny, Kenyan men take funny to another
level. They are downright comical when they tell you about the escapades they
have had with the women in their lives or those who have passed through. I am
not one to pass up a good laugh and if I know some of my guy friends are
holding a kamukunji at some local, I
will oblige them and invite myself. Crash the party so to speak.
On one occasion, they were talking about why they at times
would rather not have some of you (the women) at their place. If it was even
possible they would rather they spent the night at your house rather than you
coming over. So I thought I should share some of these men’s thoughts.
Make-up left on the
Some of you ladies are very notorious when it comes to
make-up application. Most men are not against make-up if anything, they will embrace
it. As proven by that study about women who wear make-up getting promotions and
are more prone to getting job offers.
On the other hand, when you leave various colors on his
sheets you leave him with a chore. If your man has white sheets it is even worse
because all that foundation leaves a mess. Unless you know how to work around
that, it is tricky because I can just imagine women all over Nairobi rushing
off to wash their face before sex. In the heat of the moment, you tell him,
‘Hold up, I have to go wash my face.’ As you proceed to remove a washcloth from
the bag. Chances are he might change his mind because we know that some of you
do not look the same without your make-up.
Using him as a pillow
It is a weekday, he is tired, so he wants to rest and sleep
unconsciously. You have had sex then you want to cuddle if he rolls over you
get offended. Most of the time it is not because he does not love you or he is
against romantic intimacy. It is that he just wants to sleep as well as you do.
For, example, using his arm to rest your head. You make him
spend the whole night in one position and when he wakes up, the arm will have a
cramp. That is just simple logic. Unless he shoves you off and pretends he is
having a nightmare, most of the time the guy spends half the night awake
because you are using him as a pillow as you thrush around.
Wearing his clothes
I know that Cosmopolitan
told you that wearing a man’s shirt makes you look sexy, but wait until you are
offered the shirt in question. Some of you proceed to the man’s closet without
permission, put on a perfectly clean work shirt that he had planned to use the
following day because he is behind on laundry and sleep in it. Some of you are
not clean either, so he cannot rewind
it and if he could it is too wrinkly from your sleeping in it.
If given an opportunity, they would probably give you the
t-shirt from some promotion. Not the good work shirt.
Having to sort you
out in the morning
If he was the one at your house, he could choose the time to
leave also his own transportation is easier to deal with. If he has a car, he
just drives himself to wherever, if he is using public means, atapanda matatu.
Enter the woman spending the night, first of all, many do
not want to leave at all, others might choose to move in if it is on a weekend.
If it is a weekday and you have to go to work he either has to pay for the taxi
which is an expense to him. Imagine if you spend there every night of the week.
Or he wakes up earlier than usual so that he can drop you off first so that he
can go to his own work. It becomes a process.
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