5 reasons foreplay is a MUST
17 July 2015, 12:37
Nairobi - Foreplay is like having a car with a fully functional GPS.
Makes your work simpler and you get to your destination a lot better. I have
never been in such a car (except seeing it in a movie) but maybe I am getting
into the wrong vehicles.
Most couples do not know how to ‘foreplay’. A clear
indication is when you keep coming across articles talking about how to get
someone in the mood in order to improve your sex life. It should never be on
the ‘improvement’ column but it is just a given.
You get to learn your
The reason most couples/partners/ ‘buddies’ that see each
other once a week/ everybody who is
having sex with people they are not meant to be having sex with have an
unsatisfying sex life is because most of them never take the time to know their
The only way you can do that is through foreplay. Yes, it is
a process and it takes longer but at least you will know what she does not like
or she likes. Where her ‘it’ spots are and how to turn her on faster. The best
part is, as soon as you get the knowledge, you will not have to work as hard
You find out what SHE
wants as you go along
I know you have all come across that read that tells you to
ask her what she wants, but when do you ask? It is all in the timing. If it is
during sex then you have already failed. Just picture all the times you have
done it. You are already in and halfway you ask, ’what do you want?’ SMH! What
do you expect her to tell you? You have already rushed the experience and she
will tell you what I know she has told you countless times, ‘this is fine/
Different scenario: foreplay builds arousal and that is when
your woman will be more open to what you are thinking and she will tell you,’
take me-… from the back, on my back, bent over or standing up!’ I do not know
but she will be more open and tell you. And you will like it.
She will be more into
wanting to have sex as compared to you jumping on her
When you want a child to do chores you bribe them such that
next time you want them to do it, they will be happy to do so as they are
looking forward to the boon they get.
If what you have always been doing is jump on her, then that
explains why after afew months it just gets old and she gets that ‘get over
with it’ look. You have not made her anticipate the good feeling that comes
from coitus with you. Foreplay is the bribe your woman needs to look forward to
sex with you.
Women need arousal
Never forget that. In the early stages/ honey moon stages of
your relationship, your woman is normally just turned on because of that strong
attraction that is initially there that’s why when you say, ‘are you up for
it?’ She is up or she initiates in the luckier cases. Sex lives deteriorate after the honeymoon
stage because you now have to work to get her there which you never used to.
Which all the men ignore and badgering her on why she is no longer interested
does not help your case.
I have a friend whose been married for a couple of years
with two children. She is 26 and her husband knows that wine is the way to
loosen her up and get her in the mood. Problem is she always gets pregnant. It
works like an aphrodisiac and a fertility pill at the same time. I am not
saying you get your women drunk; just that know what works to get her where you
want her. In the mood for foreplay!
Women never want to
be rushed unless they are the ones who say so.
Think of all the
times you have wanted to do something with your woman or she has invited you to
do something with her. A road trip, shopping, going to church or even taking
the kids to school. Women never rush. They like pre-planning things and making
them go at their motion. Slow.
If you rush her, that is not foreplay that will not end
well. One minute you are kissing, then jumping to the nipple and before she
knows it she is turned around with no idea what is happening. Women are
defensive by the way, mess up first time and she will put up defenses. Such
that next time, she will read through your intentions not be interested in what
you are about and you are back to square one.
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