5 reasons dating 'fixers' does not work
31 August 2016, 13:15
Nairobi - There is a difference between wanting
someone to do better and wanting them to do better your way. The latter is what
a fixer is.
No one likes a fixer. Anyone will put up a
resistance against someone who comes in to tell them how to do what they are
doing, but wait, they will do it better than you.
are persistent which makes them annoying
They do not know when to take a no for an
answer because there is always a but in the end of their sentence. They will
keep nagging you about something until you either agree to it or they force you
rarely make it about your personal growth but because they are in a
relationship with you
For example, they meet you at an event. You
are clearly an artist; maybe you are singing or selling some art. You go on
dates and they find out you might have one of those technical degrees like
architecture, surgery or basically something that could earn you more than what
you are currently doing. In their head, it is now how much of a better life
style they could live or…sorry, you could live if only you would pursue that
and stop depending on your passions
alone. Now, do you get it?
in relationships don’t know how to mind their business
Of course, most couples like being in each
other’s business but we all have limits. They don’t because what you do
directly affects them. If it is business, they want to know how much it will
earn compared to how much will go down the drain even if it is your money. If
it is a change of job, will it make your lives better or you are about to cut
off some expenses due to lower pay. Is it going to affect their social life?
Will it embarrass them?
are obsessed with making things perfect
Basically all the above with a little more
intense nagging and making sure you slip up. One small mistake on your part or
failure will have them harping on your head all through the relationship.
‘Remember that one time you….’
not limited to you but everyone in your circle
They are the ones when you bring to a
gathering has a proposal ready, ‘You guys will do so much
better if you stopped drinking all weekend and saved your money instead.’
‘I think this is a good idea for you guys.’
Even though you do not mix business with friends or family. As long as they are
doing it, we are all doing it.
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