5 questions you MUST ask your boyfriend
22 September 2016, 15:26
Nairobi - I was reading something and it said that
you should ask your boyfriend what type of women he likes and I was like, ‘Why
would you ask that? What if you are not it?’ Just a way to get your feelings
You also don’t ask a man on the first date
what his future plans unless he opens that up to you himself. You wait until
you see the situation is going somewhere which is why we say, serious
are his future plans?
So that you know if you two are in the same
page. The man might be planning to leave the country and live elsewhere or
there is this case. I know someone who is planning to go make a living as a
polytechnic teacher in the rural areas. He does not want to live in Nairobi.
The future that excites him is one where he lives in the village. What if you
come across such a man; never ask and now in year two of marriage he drops such
a bombshell? Don’t assume.
he thinks of marriage
Not many people think too much of the
certificate. There are people that are comfortable being together and just
living. If your plan is marriage, you need to find out where your man’s head.
Does not matter if he is a divorced or widowed person, even the ones that have
never had a tragedy ae just comfortable with dating you forever. They don’t
cheat or have commitment issues- they just don’t get the fuss of marriage. And
of course, a wedding.
he thinks of kids
Does he want to have them and if he has
some from previous relationships; will he be ready for more with you? People
don’t want to spend their lives paying school fees and some take extreme
measures to ensure this. Don’t short-change yourself by thinking you will
change someone’s mind.
out a lot about his mother
You need to look into his relationship with
the mother. Not in a bad way but at times, you might find a man that puts her
before you. Nothing wrong with that. Problem comes in when it should just be
the two of you but she is a player. Now it is a triangle.
work and finances
A boyfriend can support you while working
but change his mind as a husband. A boyfriend will support your idling until
you want that expensive wedding and now it is like you do not bring anything to
the table. Do you have a joint account or is it going to be everyone and their
own money. What is the plan?
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