5 mistakes women make with men
06 January 2016, 15:24
Nairobi - Women make mistakes in relationships. Here are the 5 most common.
If I ask him too many
questions he will leave me and go for the other woman
Aha! That is how someone becomes a mistress or your wedding
is stormed by the first wife that stays in the village. Or coming unannounced
on some weekend to find another one there or not knowing he has children. Like
the list is endless; not knowing they are jobless but still hustling. Women
ruin themselves by not having the guts to ask questions. You choose to make
assumptions then you cry you were lied to. It is not a lie if the conversation
was never had in the first place. Men are not in such short supply,
especially the good ones. You just overlook them because he does not earn
enough, does not dress well enough, is too short, does not look as good as you would like when presenting him to friends, relatives or colleagues. Pretty
is easy but it comes with baggage.
If I keep asking for
things I will like I am so demanding
If you never ask the answer will always be no and in the
case of relationships, if you never ask a man for anything he will always find
someone else to give it to while you give him free passes. What is more of a
turn off than looking demanding? Raising a baby on your own with no support
because you do not know how to ask what is your due; or having to pay for your
own dates and anniversaries because you don’t know how to ask. You might as
well get yourself a cat because at least it does not go to work and get money
you never see.
I can’t approach him
that will make me look so aggressive
Be afraid to go after what you actually want in life and
believe it or not you will always be settling because you are allowing someone
else to make the decision of whom you can date other than you. You are allowing
yourself only the option of those who have approached you rather than widening
the circle a little bit and allowing for your choices as well. You are also
afraid you might not be their type, too ugly, too short, too tall, too fat, too
black or not as well put together as you would think they would like; but so
what, you will never know the answer if you never asked.
I have to haggle over
who pays on the first date
I have a friend who always makes an amusing picture for me
when we go out. The man says he is paying but I will have to witness an
argument both at dinner, the party and in the cab. She always haggles even
though the man ends up paying, I am just sitting back because I know my state
in life if someone wants to pay, I let them. The savings look better in my
purse anyway. I understand feminism and everything but if someone offers there
is nothing wrong with accepting. You will find the wrong kind of guy next time
who will take it as his due and it will never stop throughout the relationship.
It does not make you any less to allow a man to do what he needs to do.
I have to show him how
amazing I would be as a wife
What you are showing is how amazing you are as a help who
will never need any pampering and that is what that man will give you. Half the
time men complain about a woman having high standards, the other half is spent
appreciating that she will not bend over for him. So continue bending while
your man sends another woman your manicure money so that she looks nice while
he takes her out for drinks.
Self-worth and appreciation is what show men you are good
enough to bring up his children with that kind of self-respect. This helper
business is what will show him how easy he can walk all over you.
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