5 lies men always say
23 March 2015, 18:59
Nairobi - There is this man that I was once in contact with, can’t say association or like or love because it never amounted to that.
So this man, after pursuing me for a while, what an idiot, he goes frigid. I did not ask him to pursue me, in fact, I had been ignoring him but the minute I became interested, he fed me lines.
He is an idiot not because I am angry that it did not amount to anything but because he wasted my time otherwise I could have been with other people. Wasting my energies- Smh!
The other day, a friend of mine tells me about this man who was busy pursuing her, told her that they would have a coffee, that Friday. She agreed, so as she went about her business, Friday came, went and passed. The man then calls her on Sunday, after a conversation, she asks him what happened with the coffee date. In true Kenyan male fashion, at least he was honest, he just said, ‘I do not know.’ That was it, ‘I do not know.’ He had no idea what happened, did not even call to cancel but went MIA and resurfaced on Sunday.
Needless to say, I cancelled that man from my life and she quarantined the other out of her existence. That is why we are dodging Kenyan men, and we are learning how to play the game your way, so do not complain.
Some of the lines that some of these men feed us, and why I think they were a guide to avoiding future egocentric maniacs from the Kenyan male species.
I was so busy… a lot has been happening I have not been able to get away
So, someone calls you and sets up a day to meet with you. They do not show up and never even say a word to excuse themselves. If someone wanted to see you, they would make time. If they respected you, they would respect your time too. Rescheduling is not a strategy but an option. If a man does not do any of that he actually is not interested because he had better things to do that did not include you.
I do not know
I found this one funny but it is very gauche. This one is not interested and does not care what you think. You cut him off, you get angry, you cry- that is your energy spent, not his. This one cares less. The statement alone is a signal warning you of someone you should just let go of.
She broke my heart, so I am still healing
Time and time again, I still wonder if guys can actually feel heartbreak. If anything I think they are made of stone.
If the man likes you, he will not tell you that he has just broken up with someone who hurt him terribly. That is playing himself. If a man wants you, trust me, the lines he will feed you include, ‘how he has been looking for the right one and you are it.’ He will not tell you how he was with someone and they broke up so that you can question him. If he is telling you the above statement, he is hoping you pick the implicit words, ’I am not interested in you.’
I think we should take it slow
A Kenyan man’s catch phrase when it comes to relationships is the faster the better. When it reaches a point and he wants to do the opposite, he is desperately wishing that you friend zone him before he has to take matters in his own hands and friend zone’s you.
I do not do relationships
This is how women get placed in categories that they did not want. When a man tells you he does not do relationships, t basically means that he does not do relationships with you.
That is why you waited for him all that time, thinking you would be the one to change him only to see a wedding invitation to someone else. The above statement, is headline for he does not want you.
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