5 key parenting rules
01 October 2015, 15:24
Nairobi - Children are precious. They need your their parents to behave or else trouble.
The stress at home carries to their outside world
Meaning school; it interferes with their school work because
they cannot concentrate as they keep thinking of what is going on at home. You
can say that it is none of their business but you make it their business when
they overhear quarrels or have to move around at night with one parent because
the other one chased the other one out. You also make it their business when
you use them as a communication medium. If you have to
If the parents are shutting doors at each other, the
children learn to do the same
Meaning that they learn poor communications skills from the
both of you; they will do the same with their peers, their teachers and with
you. They will sulk and not talk about their problems or what is bothering
them. They become easily confrontational over petty issues.
They do not play well with others
They do not know how to play nice with others because that
is what they have learnt or are learning at home. They see that if something is
not done their way, they can throw a tantrum or beat someone up. They see that
if they want something that belongs to someone else, they can just take it
because that is what you two are doing. Taking things for granted from each
other. Confrontational and abusive to
others; they also cannot take correction and criticism from their peers to
The children grow up with very erect barriers
It is not easy for them to easily open up to other people
and that may make them have bad relationships with their partners as well. They
pick up from the bad experience that the both of you had and they become jaded.
They choose not to believe that a marriage can actually be a good thing for
They will end up blaming you
No matter how you look at it, you have ruined a part of
their child hood. You use them against your spouse, they are your messengers
and they are constantly caught between the cross fire of having to separate the
two of you if it gets violent. You ruined their childhood because they know of
those other kids who did not have to deal with the same shit when they went
back home. All they had to worry about was homework while they had to worry
about the two of you.
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