Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.

Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.


MyNews24 is a user-generated section of News24 Kenya. The stories here come from users.

Latest Badges:

5 dating facts

28 October 2015, 15:53 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - It ended in divorce. It stalled. It is not moving. It ended. He moved on to someone else. Do not take it too seriously otherwise it might end up taking more out of you than you get out of it-you do not want that. It is not you but it is just love.  Love gets the best of us; the best of everyone else. Just because you don’t see or hear about it does not mean that they are not going through it or have never experienced it. They are just better at hiding their experience.

It did not go the way you expected it to

When we are with somebody as much as we try to avoid it, we all end up making plans about them without them. We think of what could be and that makes us keep trying harder for someone even though we are not sure about them. The devastation comes in when they tell you that they do not see it going anywhere with you. That is a hard pill to swallow because in your head you are thinking of the wedding plans you had already made. It is not the end of the world, just move on to something else. You can take time out or try with someone else. You feel bad because you raised your mother’s expectations or you look worse because your little sister is on baby number two.  What will you do? Just move on they will deal with their own emotions, sort out yours first.

You did not do enough to make it work

Whenever a relationship fails the first thing that most women ask themselves if they invested themselves in it is, ‘what did I not do?’ As a woman at times you have to realize that at times you are investing in the wrong person and it is not your investment that is the problem. Keep investing time and effort on the wrong person or people and you will keep getting the same result. Take a time out, re-evaluate and pick the right person to invest in; you will get the results you want. You can’t compromise yourself in order for you to keep someone and make them appreciate.

So it ended in divorce

Someone will tell you that you even failed in keeping a marriage together. Let me tell you what; people talk out of their ass at times and pretend like theirs is perfect and going well. Do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. If your kids are alright and you are supported or can support them yourself; move on. It was a phase, you tried, you did not fail but you just did not succeed.

You allowed other things/ people to get in the way

It happens; we can be the ones to allow other people get in the way of our relationships. We can allow other things to take centre stage while the relationship suffers. Should you cry;  no, but learn from it and fix it. Make the next one a success from that lesson. How long will you cry for and wallow in self-pity?

There was nothing there but it took you too long to see it

I have a habit. In order for me not to let the bad back into my life, I do a very simple thing. I delete that contact and make sure it never crops up. Women normally delete but they have crammed the number so on a lonesome night they go back to the, ‘hi you?’ text and it is back again. We cry that we did not know but you knew you were just hoping that this time you could make it better and eventually change someone’s mind. Don’t waste your time. Time can never be brought back. So if it is not working, don’t stay around begging and hoping. Move on! It is not a failure but a trial that you learnt from. Who cares what people will say or think?

You two are not moving anywhere

This one is the worst in my opinion. Someone who is in an active relationship with you but they are just there. Not making plans, not in a hurry, not cheating, not seeing other people and not telling you where there mind is. So you can’t also move on because you are thinking it is normal and they have not given you reason to leave or doubt them. You are in a relationship. It is normal; what do you do?  Just have the conversation. If you want marriage, ask. If you want a child, ask. If you want permanence, ask. At times getting a no saves lives. It is not a fail but now you can do something else and move on to better things.

For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!

- MyNews24

Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.

Read more from our Users

Submitted by
Wilson Ochieng
Apologise for attack on Auditor G...

Apologise for attack on Auditor General, President Uhuru Kenyatta is told by Kisumu Senator Anyang Nyong'o. Read more...

Submitted by
Wilson Ochieng
Quit if you can't fight corruptio...

An MP has told President Uhuru Kenyatta to quit office if he cannot fight corruption. Read more...

Submitted by
Wilson Ochieng
Investigate Uhuru, Ruto for corru...

Investigate President Uhuru Kenyatta and DP William Ruto's offices over corruption, CORD leader Raila Odinga has said. Read more...

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
Its a 1 horse race to State House...

Its a 1 horse race to State House, DP William Ruto has mocked the CORD Coalition. Read more...

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
Enjoy your time left in power, We...

CORD Co Principal Moses Wetangu'la has told the Jubilee Coalition to enjoy its last few months in power before it is voted out in the 2017 elections. Read more...

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
Stop hiding in State House and sa...

ODM MP's have called on President Uhuru Kenyatta to release drought aid and to stop sitting on public funds. Read more...