5 big lessons to learn about relationships
18 December 2014, 18:25
Nairobi - When you are in the game, there are things that come up as
you go along with each new partner that you date, but still do not end up with.
It is not a loss, but you get away having learnt something new.
If none of your
relationships have taught you nothing then you have been wasting your time. If
you are still miserable about a break up that happened a few years back, then
you still have a lot of growing up to do. It is a learning curve that is how I
look at dating and relationships. No need to grieve once it is dead.
A few things that any young or even older woman should have
learnt by thy time they hit the big 30 and still in the dating department.
A relationship will never complete you
If you want out of
the single department so that everything else just falls into the right place.
Then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. If you cannot find
fulfillment on your own and in what you do without someone else being around to
hold your hand, then it is a crutch you need and not a man.
How you treat each
other now, is how you will treat each other down the road
If the person you are
with does not give you the right kind of involvement, appreciation, trust,
respect and love that you want and expect, then leave them for the next person
that will be satisfied with what they have to offer. Do not hold on to a
relationship where you keep thinking that someone will change, 20/20 times,
that never happens because they are not chameleons. A dog will be a dog no
matter how many times you close your eyes and wish for something else.
Sex is a no-no on the first date
If you really want
something better with someone then that is a rule you have to stick with. We preach otherwise, and talk about being
adults and making decisions with how we want but at the end of the day, better
relationships are built on more than sex. You will not have sex 24/7, people
need companionship and a good laugh every now and then.
Your list or your type is an overrated experience made up by
women in the 19th century
9 out of 10 times
some couples never understand the people they ended up with but they are okay
or even happier with whom they ended up with. This is because what you have in
your head never measures up with what you really get when you go after it. The
obstacle that you keep pushing out of the way might actually be what you really
Being single is more than good, it’s exhilarating
You figure yourself
out, you find out what you really expect of others so that you never settle,
you learn how to be happy with yourself and in your own space. If you use that
time mopping then you are more messed up than you actually think. Does not
matter if they dumped you, cheated, dated your best friend immediately; be the
bigger person and be comfortable watching everybody else make a fool of
themselves. The next person that finds you will think you are a treasure.
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