5 Valentines tips for the man
02 February 2015, 15:56
Nairobi - It does not matter that it is Valentines, she was single,
you asked her out, she said yes and you think it was because she was desperate
enough to go out with you so that she is not alone on that weekend. It does not
mean that you will be entitled to anything from a first date just because you
are paying for the meal. A week and a half away is the countdown to when most
women will either be entertaining a true gentleman, a wolf, a dog, or a fish in
Notice how the last three are some type of anima... or fish,
it is because most men are usually some type, you just have to figure out which
one yours is or will be after that date on the 14th of this month. A
few will be lucky to have the gentleman but most will come out of battle with
scars and no titles to go with them.
A wolf is in disguise as the gentleman until the end of the
night, he will be out to get his piece of meat after the date and lose your
number afterwards. When he asks you out you will feel like God has shined the
sun on you and you have hit the jackpot. The dog is out for his pound of flesh
and does not care about how he treats you during or after the date. Also look
for how he will ask you for the date, ‘I am free this Saturday, do you want to
go out and do something?’ will be his tagline.
The fish in the water just goes with the flow, most are in a
relationship or it is something that is still new, so he looks to see how you
treat this day, then he makes a move and pokes around like it is dark until he
gets the winning move.
But really, guys, as a date, there are just some rules that
you will have to abide by, even if you do not feel like being the bigger
gentleman, just try it and it might actually get you what you want; maybe not
now but sooner than normal.
Do not expect anything after the date
I know it goes against your grain of salt or rather
thoughts. Just because you paid for the
meal, bought her flowers and picked as well as dropped her, it does not mean
she will want you to get into the house with her. If she invites you in then
lucky you but maybe she wants a few more dates before she actually does
anything with you.
The date is meant to be about her
If she wants to talk your ear off, then let her, if she
wants to go eat seafood then take her and order something else that you can
stomach. The first date is about the woman, and about making her feel
comfortable, if you cannot do that then you are already losing in the stakes.
Nothing worse than
going on date with a man that asked you out but you are the one that is making
the decisions and trying to get both of you out of situations. Even though you
hope she orders within means, carry extra cash, it may come in handy. If
reservations backfire, have a back-up plan. If the car or taxi breaks down also
have a backup and not one that involves her walking around in heels. She made
time to look good for you, do not curse the fact that she is in them when it
does not go as planned. Just be prepared.
If she has taken time to look good for you, then remember to
take time to appreciate it. It does not matter if it is a look you do not like,
do not make her self-conscious.
Take time to look good for her
Just because it is a Saturday, do not go in a fancy
restaurant in jeans. Jeans are only allowed if you agreed to go for a picnic or
a movie- but even in this make an effort to look smart for her. It will make
her appreciate the effort you put in.
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