5 MUSTS when going for a blind date
23 February 2015, 18:42
Nairobi - As an adult I have never been on a blind date and I do not
think I ever want to or will ever accept to go for one. In my teenage years I
went for two and never picked those calls afterward in fact I got an emergency
immediately after meeting these guys and never looked back again.
As a teenager, you are always open to experimenting but as a
grown up I just sat down and asked myself deep
questions. Why would someone open themselves to that kind of danger because
believe you me there are some very criminal characters lurking around in
Nairobi. Does not matter who ‘hooked’ you up, because chances are they did not
do a background check and when you are in that situation, you are on your own.
Either way, to each his own and when it comes to dating then all bets are
I learnt some pretty accurate lessons on those occasions
Always have low expectations
I think when you are going for a blind date you are
desperate, chances are your soon to be beau is also desperate. If s/he is out
there looking to meet strangers chances are s/he is lacking in some quarters. When
I go into something, do something or plan something I always strive for very
low expectations on the other person’s part. That way I will not be
disappointed. It is good for your soul and all that but everyone has a limit
and I reached mine a long while ago. There is this one that I met his dress sense
was horrible, I allowed it and thought maybe the personality is amazing. I was
sadly disappointed as he could not string two sentences and could not even look
me in the eye. I can be scary but not scary to a confident man who knows what
he is about.
Do not allow them to have your number
Makes cutting things
off easier. Do not allow the person hooking you up to give away your number. If
it is about meeting, then let the person arrange it, all you have to do is show
Meet in a public place
There are some people
in desperation for a free meal, trip or getaway are open to being taken
anywhere. If it is a blind date, keep it simple, short and fast. The next time,
if there will be a next time, is when you allow to be taken to far off places.
Do not wake up on a road trip and find yourself at the side of the road with no
recollection of what happened.
Use Google hangout or Skype (If possible)
You know the thing about technology is that it has allowed
us to be able to invade people’s privacy. When someone has a Facebook,
LinkedIn, Twitter…name it. Social media defeats me, but google does not. If it
is on the internet I will find it. Find out about the person you are meeting. If
they look shady or even if there is no trace of them anywhere arrange to meet
at the at an open space like those Galitos and Chiken Inns that everyone can
I have never understood movies where you are in a crowd,
someone points a gun behind you and tells you to do stuff and you do it because
you do not want to get shot. Trust me, if that person is going to shoot they
would have. My motto is to always stand my ground and dare you to shoot me in
the middle of Moi Avenue.
This is for the
ladies, just because it is a date and you are a woman do not assume that he is
a gentleman. Chivalry is dead to a lot of Kenyan men. That is how that woman
had that had a KES 230,000 bill at that hotel. Most probably it was a blind date with
some clown. Carry money, if not for everyone, just enough for you to clear your
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