4 ways to rebuild your relationship
16 February 2016, 16:45
Nairobi - Is your relationship failing? Here are ways to rebuild it.
Show interest in your
Just like you expect someone to be bothered about your day
and how it went, you should also do the same. You can be the one to start
because you are the one who first thought of it for yourself. You do not have
to wait for a situation to solve itself but you can prompt it. If you want
someone to do something for you, have you tried to do it for them first?
Most partners don’t
know how to take criticism well; try changing that
Living with someone and seeing them every day gets a lot of
couples in a place where they no longer view their spouse as a partner but an
adversary. It reaches a point you cannot point out when someone is doing
something wrong because you know from there it is obviously downhill. If you
know you have a defensive trait, try working on it. That might make your
partner open up to you more and do the same for. Always remember that for every
action there is a reaction; so if you think this action will make a situation
worse that better, try its opposite. Even if they were wrong, it will make them
stop and think first why you are not coming for them.
Try reducing the
things that you notice have gotten in between the two of you
I am not saying it will work instantly like a magic stick
but it will be progress. Relationships get routine, mundane, boring and just
basic because life gets in the way. That is understandable especially when you
have children and work. What you can do is look at those things at times and
when you have already given 80% the first week of the month, give them a
back seat the moment your partner needs something and make them a priority for
once. It is a start.
A life partner means
you have to be quicker to forgive rather than judge and grudge
Unless you want to keep circling the same issues every other
time; unless you want to keep them from telling you when they did something
wrong. Unless you want them to hide things because that is basically what leads
to lying a cheating; people hide things so as not to be judged constantly for
that one offense. Or keep defending their actions. I know there are situations
you cannot stand but the secret as always been to set boundaries from day one.
The moment you keep giving allowances; they will keep doing it.
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