4 ways to keep the Kenyan man interested
07 March 2015, 10:34
Nairobi - The rest of the world: get an introduction to the lady, get her number, and ask her out. If it does not work, he does not see her again. If it works, then there is a second, third … date. Then it eventually progresses to the bedroom. Then build a relationship as you find out her qualities.
Now, the Kenyan man. First, he has to find out whether the trouser fits before buying it. Introductions are not always necessary, he will do all and sundry to gain access to your phone. For example ask for yours because his has had an ‘incident’. Thereby proceeding to give himself a call with your phone so as to retain your number. Or use your business card-as long as it gets him what he wants, he does not care what you think about the approach.
Secondly, from the first day, he will do all that is necessary to get you into his (or your) bedroom. Fitting the trousers. If you are not good enough in the sack, then that will significantly diminish his efforts in pursuing you. So he will retain Roselyn, Mary, Jane’s and so and so’s numbers to make sure when he makes the final decision, he picked out the best at that point in time.Even if the date was horrible, he will keep the number for any occasion when the others do not come through.
Advice to the ladies, the way to a Kenyan man’s heart is later through his stomach, first, avoid getting into bed with him-they like the chase. If you take that away, that is when he starts acting like a circus clown; you put yourself way at the bottom on his list because you already showed him your split tactics. This is when Roselyn* is at the lead she has yet to release her jujube(candy). The trick to win his heart, is one jujube at a time. Pour it all down his throat and it makes him nauseous.
The chase is not about you playing never-to-get; but about you giving him time to get to know you first. It is not you no picking calls or acting busy when you are bored crazy out of your mind but would really like to go on that date. Give him a chance to get to know you and do not fall for his tactics when he flirts with the other girl in front of you. So you do what he wants because you are worried you will lose him.
That is just him pulling out his dumb boy tricks to get to you, and when they work he moves on until he meets his match.
Third, after the Kenyan man, is finally able to put you down, the dating life that you previously enjoyed comes to an end. (I think that is why you consider them unromantic)
It is not his fault, blame culture and tradition, it taught him that as long as he now has the cow in his shed, why then should he keep looking for ways to entice its seller? That is just him being practical.He does not understand why he needs to buy roses when he can buy meat, which can feed you, instead. Nor why, he should take you to the expensive restaurant every Friday, when at the end of the day he is already sure you are going to go with him at home. To him it is all the same if you stay at home. Just that at home is cheaper.
If possible he will quickly proceed to having a family and avoid the wedding fracas. He will do all that is necessary to avoid paying for people to eat off him for free.
You know you married a Kenyan man, when you walk down the aisle having finally convinced him to pay for a wedding rather than get that new Jeep he was eyeing. All done in reverse.
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